I have a 16-year-old daughter and recently especially she's been acting out. She dyed her hair red knowing she wasn't allowed to and that she would get in trouble. Five days later she sneaked a boy over at 1am and was loud enough to get caught playing board games in the basement. Less than a week later (today) she asked me if she could go out to eat with her friends and I told her no. She tried to sneak out anyways, even after seeing I set the alarm and left my bedroom door open.
Each time she's gotten caught she's readily accepted any punishment and even suggested ways to punish herself. Today she handed me her phone saying I probably wouldn't give it back for a month, and told me she cancelled a party that I let her schedule for Sunday. She was also going to go to Winter Formal (a school dance) next Saturday but she told me she told her date she couldn't go either.
I started to yell at her she just started rambling off confessions of other things she should get in trouble for, as if daring me to punish her. I don't understand what she's doing and why. I have tried asking her but she just shrugs and says "I don't know," and I truly think she doesn't. Can someone please help?