I am a single mom again (as of a week ago) of a 5 (almost 6) y.o. who is in kindergarten.

My son's biological dad were together 5 years but we lived apart by the time I got pregnant. He pushed us out of his life pretty much as I got pregnant. He wanted me to abort him, but I refused.

Though he wanted me to have an abortion, he was present for his birth and visited 2 times, celebrated his 1st birthday together, then he simply stopped seeing him. No support, no legal stuff done; I left the area to live with my mom. Before I left, I was starting a relationship with a man that I knew for 4 years. We did end up having a very loving relationship, a long distance one, and because my son was so young at the time, he eventually became "dad". We were together almost 4 years.

He wanted him to be his son. He said through the years that we were together that he loved him as his son. (We had been together a total of almost 4 years; it ended a week ago.)

I did not take lightly him being called dad. He moved in with us (multigenerational household). Things were good, but he was away a lot with his work, yet I feel we did well together and as a whole family.

Last week, he said he hated living in "the city" and had to leave. I was blindsided. Now my son has basically lost two daddies.

My son is smart and articulate. I don't need to talk to him about his bio dad since he never knew him, but how am I to approach him about the daddy he knows now that he's gone? Right now, I'm pretty sure he thinks he's just at work. He talks about him but hasn't asked where he is yet. He lives with me, my mom, his adult sister, including our next door neighbor, and numerous family members that visit. So he has lots of love around. No abuse. Normal, for us, family life.

What to do? How to tell him??

I am a single mom again (as of a week ago) of a 5- (almost 6-) year-old, who is in kindergarten.

My son's biological dad and I were together 5 years but we lived apart by the time I got pregnant. He pushed us out of his life pretty much as I got pregnant. He wanted me to abort him, but I refused.

Though he wanted me to have an abortion, he was present for his birth and visited 2 times, celebrated his 1st birthday together, then he simply stopped seeing him. No support, no legal stuff done; I left the area to live with my mom. Before I left, I was starting a relationship with a man that I knew for 4 years. We did end up having a very loving relationship, a long distance one, and because my son was so young at the time, he eventually became "dad". We were together almost 4 years.

He wanted him to be his son. He said through the years that we were together that he loved him as his son. (We had been together a total of almost 4 years; it ended a week ago.)

I did not take lightly him being called dad. He moved in with us (multigenerational household). Things were good, but he was away a lot with his work, yet I feel we did well together and as a whole family.

Last week, he said he hated living in "the city" and had to leave. I was blindsided. Now my son has basically lost two daddies.

My son is smart and articulate. I don't need to talk to him about his bio dad since he never knew him, but how am I to approach him about the daddy he knows now that he's gone? Right now, I'm pretty sure he thinks he's just at work. He talks about him but hasn't asked where he is yet. He lives with me, my mom, his adult sister, including our next door neighbor, and numerous family members that visit. So he has lots of love around. No abuse. Normal, for us, family life.

What to do? How to tell him?

This might be a lengthy post but here i go: my 5 year old, almost 6, is in kindergarten. I am a single mom, again, as of a week ago. (Past)My son's bio dad, pushed us out of his life pretty much as i got pregnant. He wanted me to abort him. I refused, espcially after seeing his little heartbeat. (We were together 5 years and we lived apart by the time i got pregnant). I had a heart attack at 6 months into the pregnancy and we, my son and i couldve died. It still didnt change his desire for me to abort him. He was present for his birth and visited 2 times, celebrated his 1st birthday together, and he simply stopped seeing him. After over year without contact, i moved to live with my mom, as i had other medical issues. So bio dad is out of the picture (no support, no legal stuff done, we just left). Before i left, i was VERY SLOWLY starting a relationship with a man that i knew for 4 years. I made no promises to this man, as i had been hurt so badly. We did end up having a very loving relationship, a long distance one, and because my son was so young at the time, he eventually became "dad". He wanted him to be his son. He said through the years we were together (as of a week ago) that he loved him as his son. (We had been together a total of almost 4 years). I did not take lightly him being called dad. He moved in with us (multigenerational household). Things were good, but he was away a lot with his work. That was hard, but i feel we did good together and as a whole family. It has only been a week, but after going to our local fair together and having fun, we started talking and he said he hated living in "the city" and had to leave. I was blindsided. Now he's basically lost two daddies. My son is smart and articulate. I dont need to talk to him about his bio dad since he never knew him, but the daddy he knows...how am i to approach him that hes gone? Right now, im pretty sure he thinks he's just at work. He talks about him but hasnt asked where he is...YET! What to do? How to tell him?? He lives with myself, my mom, his adult sister, including our next door neighbor, and numerous family members that visit. So he has lots of love around. No abuse. Normal, for us, family life. Has a dog and cat...pretty normal...lol.

I am a single mom again (as of a week ago) of a 5 (almost 6) y.o. who is in kindergarten.

My son's biological dad were together 5 years but we lived apart by the time I got pregnant. He pushed us out of his life pretty much as I got pregnant. He wanted me to abort him, but I refused.

Though he wanted me to have an abortion, he was present for his birth and visited 2 times, celebrated his 1st birthday together, then he simply stopped seeing him. No support, no legal stuff done; I left the area to live with my mom. Before I left, I was starting a relationship with a man that I knew for 4 years. We did end up having a very loving relationship, a long distance one, and because my son was so young at the time, he eventually became "dad". We were together almost 4 years.

He wanted him to be his son. He said through the years that we were together that he loved him as his son. (We had been together a total of almost 4 years; it ended a week ago.)

I did not take lightly him being called dad. He moved in with us (multigenerational household). Things were good, but he was away a lot with his work, yet I feel we did well together and as a whole family.

Last week, he said he hated living in "the city" and had to leave. I was blindsided. Now my son has basically lost two daddies. 

My son is smart and articulate. I don't need to talk to him about his bio dad since he never knew him, but how am I to approach him about the daddy he knows now that he's gone? Right now, I'm pretty sure he thinks he's just at work. He talks about him but hasn't asked where he is yet. He lives with me, my mom, his adult sister, including our next door neighbor, and numerous family members that visit. So he has lots of love around. No abuse. Normal, for us, family life.

What to do? How to tell him??