I have a seven year old son. His mother and I parted ways shortly after he was born. She is the primary custodial parent. Our current relationship has been pretty good. We are usually able to find a compromise without any issue.
I live in a different city from my son and his mother. It is about a 6 hour drive from the city I live in to the one he lives in. Our current visitation schedule is that I get three of the four weekends each month with my son and his mother picks which one is hers. I drive to the city he lives in after work on Fridays and spend Saturday and Sunday with him. I am allowed to work-from-home one week a month. During that week I return my son at bed time on Sunday. Each other weekend I return my son on Sunday at about 4:00 PM so that I can make it back home in time to sleep and return to work the next day.
My son's mother has been his teacher in a private school up until this school year started. Her school is not covering 2nd grade, so my son cannot continue in her school. He is now enrolled in a public school. Due to this and the change where I am allowed to work-from-home, his mother wants to adjust our visitation schedule. She proposed that I would have him with me for the week I am allowed to work-from-home, but I would have to give up one of the weekends with him.
My issue with this suggestion is that I would have only two weekends with my son each month. If those two weekends were together on the week I am in town, then I would not be able to see my son again for nearly three weeks. If the weekends are separated, then the week that I have my son I will have to give him up on one of the weekends around it. That means I will be in town, but not be allowed to see my son. It also means I will drive just as many weekends even though I am losing one of them. In addition, I generally work until 6:00 PM, so I would only be able to see my son about two hours after work each day, which is significantly less than when I would see him on weekends.
How can I work with my son's mother's suggestion and still find something that works for me?