Timeline for How can I improve my visitation schedule with my child?
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| Aug 17, 2017 at 15:01 | comment | added | Peter | Your concern is 5 week months. Try negotiating a solution not based on months but on a rotating schedule every 4 weeks. | |
| Aug 16, 2017 at 16:26 | answer | added | MAA | timeline score: 1 | |
| Aug 15, 2017 at 19:02 | comment | added | Stephie♦ | Oh, and I'd like to add that your current description of the problem sounds a bit like a "who gets X hours of /[a toy/]" issue. My suggestion would be to focus less on time and more on which parent has which demands on an agreement - working hours and child care and extras like sports clubs and other activities (both for the parents and the child) - and see if you can find a solution for that. Adult with less pressure make more relaxed parents ^_^ | |
| Aug 15, 2017 at 18:52 | comment | added | Stephie♦ | How strict is your schedule with the mother? I don't see why being in town would necessarily mean not seeing your son because it's "her" weekend. Maybe I'm too naive and don't see the core issue, but as you are in fact co-parents so where would be the problem if you, for example took your son to the park for an hour or so, giving the mother a breather and vice versa? Maybe a less "mutually exclusive" concept and more flexibility could help you. A few years down the road you will have to include the social calendar of a teenager in your common planning. | |
| Aug 15, 2017 at 14:41 | comment | added | anon | The things that bother me are 1) being apart from my son for three weeks if I take both weekends together 2) the idea of being in town on a weekend that I spent time to drive, but not being able to see my son (in the case that my two weekends are not together) 3) reducing my "real" time with my son. If I get the five days, it is more time, but I cannot actually spend more than about two hours of it with him each day. I know they are difficult constraints to work with. I was hoping for some kind of creative solution that I am just not seeing. | |
| Aug 15, 2017 at 13:58 | comment | added | anongoodnurse | Have you told us what would work for you? It sounds like you're losing a weekend but gaining a week...five more nights to spend together with helping with schoolwork, dinner, evenings, bedtine stories, etc. I don't understand what would work better for you timewise. | |
| Aug 15, 2017 at 2:32 | comment | added | threetimes | I would imagine that since she is in a different school now than him, she too is sorting what to do with her less time with him as well. Have you discussed where he would be after school until 6pm? Does she have anything lined up for him on the other weeks already? I am not sure I fully understand all the logistics, but also don't discount that you would have mornings with him all week, dinner, etc. Those things matter, even if it's less actual hours. | |
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