I am a first-time mum to a 2.5-year-old boy and am 3 months pregnant. My son doesn't go to nursery so we are home. I'm struggling to understand my son's sleep wake pattern. I admit I messed up a lot with no routine initially but I had no idea or guidance from any family members or friends as to what or how important routines are. The inital fear of trying to 'fix' my child's bad habits has struck.
He has a few issues which are
- He doesn't sleep until 10pm (coming down from half 10). We have tried taking him up earlier but he's not even tired. I can take him up half 9 but he will still sleep around 10pm.
- He can't seem to drop his afternoon nap. I have tried many times taking him out to friends and fanily keeping him busy active, but he naturally is exhausted and falls asleep exactly 2pm in the afternoon on the sofa after lunch and a bottle of milk. I have tried waking him up after an hour but bedtime was still 10pm and normally I don't let him sleep longer than 1.5 hours or 2 max for his nap.
- He wakes up at half 8 in the morning half 9 on the weekend if it's quiet around we all get a lie in.
All of these issues are linked. I know if I can get him to sleep ealier, he will wake up ealier and his day will end earlier which I'm desperate by 9:30pm for it to end as that's my bed time.
However, the issue is I can't get him to stop that nap even if I succeeded pushing past nap time, he ends up sleeping in the evening around 5 or 6/6:30pm and then wakes up after 10 hours sleep at night. So he's up at 5am! And I have to keep him in bed with cartoons until he dozes off again but basically missing his 2pm nap or prolonging it messes up his entire night wake routine.
Where and how to tackle the issue of my 2.5-year-old's sleep-wake routine?