I have a 5-month old daughter who started out as a great sleeper. By 2-3 weeks old, she would sleep 5 hours, wake, eat, sleep about 4 hours, wake, eat, sleep. We had the day/night thing figured out really well. My husband and I actually slept! We thought we were so lucky. Somewhere around Thanksgiving (about 3 1/2 months old), she began the 4-mo sleep regression and beginning of teething AND in the midst of traveling and visiting family, which I know threw her sleep routine completely off. Now we are past the holidays, and trying to retrain. My problems are:
She can fall asleep on her own for naps - sometimes, literally every other day is perfect. The other days - not so much. The routine is the same every day. Get up at about 7am, play, eat, play. Start being put down at about 11am (yes, I know, 4 hours of awake time - she will NOT fall asleep any sooner, even if I nurse her - I have tried in the past just so I can establish timing but nothing doing). So now we don't nurse within an hour of the nap since it didn't matter. I put her down in her crib and turn on her music. Within two rounds (10 minutes), she is either sound asleep for 1 1/2 hours or bawling. No predictability day-to-day.
Bedtime routine is 6:00pm get a bath, lotion, nursing, song and rocking, then into the crib. Most of the time she falls asleep while nursing so either I have to wake her slightly to put her down in the crib awake, which leads her to thinking it's time to be up and she is then awake for another 1-2 hours cranky OR I put her down asleep and she sleeps solid 3 hours.
Nighttime wakings are 9:30pm, 12:30-1:30am, 3:30, 5:30am, then with the alarm at 7:00am. The times she wakes are fairly predictable, and she nurses on both sides just about every time - seems to be always hungry. Most of the time, she will go right back to sleep, I lay her in the crib, walk away, with no problems. The 12:30am one is the hardest. Again, like the naps, every other night, even if I nurse her, rock her, whether she's asleep drowsy or awake when she goes in the crib, she cries (we've gone an 1 1/2 hour of 5-10 minute checks and settling before I give in and just pick her up). Unless my husband holds her for an hour or I pull her into bed, there's no end.
I know she is also teething right now (her first tooth came in about a week ago), but this started before Christmas. It's not so much my sleep I'm too worried about, but more figuring out how to get her back on track with her good sleep. We've tried the 5-minute checks, I've tried fading with sitting in the room, just rocking her until she's completely out and laying her down - each one we tried for at least 2 weeks, seeing no progress, just the same above weird pattern.
I should point out, at no time do we let her sob or truly "cry-it-out". I won't let her sob. Fuss, yes, cry some, sure; sob, can't and won't.
How do I break the pattern? Or do I need to just wait a while, roll with this, and try again in a month...