I have a 5-year-old girl with an older brother, who is 8.

Lately she has started being violent physically and verbally to me when she gets reprimanded or put in time out. I put her in her room and she proceeds to hit the door and scream at the top of her lungs. I have been making the mistake of going in there when she does this. Last night she said she wanted to kill me, she hits herself in the head (lightly of course) and also says she wants to be dead. My other mistake is I let this get to me and started crying, she fed off that too.

I realize this may be a phase but my question is; I know when I respond she is getting attention so if I stop am I just supposed to let her scream and bang the door? My husband is done with everything, he's fed up and has no more patience left. Any advice?

She is normally a sweet, passionate, and loving child. There are no problems in school at all.