My husband is Armenian and I am Mexican. My husband speaks a good amount of Spanish and we both speak English. I have 2 amazing stepchildren, 9yr old girl and 11yr old boy. They only speak English. We have twins on the way and are trying to figure out how to teach them all three languages. We would love to teach them all three languages from the start but are trying to figure out the best way. We were thinking of my husband speaking Armenian to them, I would speak Spanish to them and our other two children speaking to them in English. The only tricky part would be when we are all together what language do we speak considering our other two children only speak English. In addition to that I am an elementary teacher and would love to teach them their letters, letter sounds and numbers in English before going to school but will that confuse them since I speak to them in Spanish?

  • Hi! Welcome to the site. Could you take a look at the "Related" questions (should be on the right side of your screen) and see if any answer your question? We've had a few questions about this sort of thing that might be helpful. For example, this question? Or this question?
    – Joe
    Jun 1, 2020 at 18:23
  • See my answer here and keep using all the languages - kids soak 'em up like sponges: parenting.stackexchange.com/a/39901/36241
    – Solar Mike
    Jun 1, 2020 at 20:11
  • I don't have privileges to do so, but I would say this is a duplicate of other trilingual questions. Jun 1, 2020 at 22:56
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    What is the language of the environment you live in? What languages do your stepchildren speak?
    – David
    Jun 2, 2020 at 9:50
  • @David, the question explicitly answers your second question that step kids only speak English. Given that these kids only speak English and it seems the school will be in English (preparing the twins with English to start school), I suspect an English language environment but that may be my own Americocentrism showing. Jun 2, 2020 at 17:32

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You can speak whatever language you'd like between you, your husband and your stepchildren, including when your twins arrive. But it would be best for each of you to speak your twins in your first languages. The science shows that growing up in a bilingual or multilingual environment may cause some small delay in your children starting to speak, but that they will be better at language and at learning languages once they start speaking. This is a skill that they will keep for the rest of their lives and will also help with other new languages that they learn. You have plenty of time to help your very lucky children to become proficient in speaking English, before worrying too much about how to help them read and write it! What an exciting adventure for your new children, and for you. Enjoy!

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