I have 2 kids. 4.5 and 2.5 years old
I see crayons on the wall or some juice spilled some where or somethiing else. I understand they're kids and it's expected. I help them clean up afterwars or sometimes we just do the cleaning ourselves.
I just wonder should I ask them "Who did it?/ Did you do it?"
The reason I'm not so sure is that today when I asked them, each said the other one did it. Ultimately my little one admitted that he did it.
My concern is that I don't want to make them each other's enemies, nor I want them be thinking that they could redirect the blame to the other one and get out of it.
90% of the time they take the blame, apologize and try to make it right, but I'm just starting to think me asking may not be the best idea.
I don't know what I should do as an alternative though. I ask because I then use that answer to ask my child to clean up after their mess. Or should I just make this a team effort and that we all should clean? But then it could come to a point where one of takes advantage of the other...