We've got a boy who is nearly a year old. He's woken practically every night. He is breastfed, and is currently eating solids very well. Down to a couple of breastfeeds a day really.
However, he still wakes up during the night. He'll get up and whimper for a while, without settling himself. After a while he will start crying and screaming. We've tried toughing it out but he will keep going - even after nearly an hour - unless we intervene.
I'm reasonably sure he's using breastfeeding at night for comfort. My wife doesn't work, I do, and due to various other reasons we sleep apart. As such, and as he's breastfed, she has all of this to deal with.
We are going to try this weekend where I go in though and try to comfort him without the obvious "oh I'm going to get milk out of this" to see if that helps. Here's hoping. I could use some water and see if he realises that it's not worth it.
Our first son was formula-fed, and I did the lion's share of the work at night with that, and he started sleeping through in good order. In this case however I haven't been able to (which has led to me feeling pretty damn useless).
Normal daytime routine is:
- Wake up any time from 6:30 to 8am
- Breakfast soon after (cereal, raisin toast)
- Nap normally 10-ish for 60-90 minutes
- Lunch 12 to 1 - various solid food, depending on what parents are having, or food from pouches if out
- Nap 2:30-ish for 60-90 minutes
- Dinner 5:30 - varous solid food
- Bath, breastfeed and bed starting 7:30 (generally breastfeeding lasts 30 minutes)
Water is offered at every mealtime and throughout day, quick snacks between meals too.
Last night he woke at 1am, just having a bit of a whinge, which eventually became crying and screaming at 1:50. My wife breastfed until 2:30 and put him down, but he stayed awake moving around and generally whimpering until 3:10.
Is there anything obvious I'm missing?