When my wife and I were trying for kids, we were both on good salaries, and it was hoped my wife would be able to be a stay-at-home mum to raise our child until three years old when nursery would naturally begin.
This was based on lots of opinions such as...
- Kids who start school/nursery too young develop behavioural issues at home
- Kids should be with their parents until they're ready
- Look at the "family name removed" family, they sent their kids to school at one year old and look how they turned out. You don't want to be like them
Thanks to the global recession, my wife has to go back to work in a couple of weeks, and at 12 months my child will have to go to nursery.
As a dad who works from home and who has watched his child grow since birth, I have really strong emotions about this. Obviously I will miss my child through the day, but feel extra bad because I have listened to those opinions for years and never thought I'd be facing the same situation.
Is there any evidence to support whether nursery is a bad thing at this age range? I've looked but can't find anything beyond negative opinion to further my feelings. Sorry if I'm rambling, I guess I'm just trying to soften the blow...
- "...they are producing ill-disciplined children who are unable to sit still and learn when they move on to primary school."
- "...parents use nursery as a dumping ground"
- "...large quantities of care in a day nursery before the age of three increases the incidence of insecurity and aggression in children, and that these damaging effects are still evident years later."
18 Months Later
As this question seems to have attracted quite a bit of attention, I felt I should follow-up with how things worked out for us (please see below).