I am 30 years old married.
My mother (50 years old) keeps on telling me that "Your cousin didn’t have problems with that then why are you having problems with the same thing/situation!"
"I (Referring to herself) didn't have any problems with that, then why do you have the problems with the same thing/situation!"
When your cousins don't have a problem going to their house to meet their parents, why do you have a problem to coming to your house to meet your parents!
No, she is not illiterate or step mother. She has two graduate degrees and one master's degree. She is a teacher too.
Example cases:
During my honeymoon my parents kept on ringing me many times per day to ask whether I had eaten lunch, what I was doing, why didn't or did I go there etc. When I returned back I told her that she didn't need to keep on constantly ringing me since I was on my honeymoon and wanted some peace alone.
She replied, "I had called your cousin too many times when she was on her honeymoon, she didn't any problems, then why are you having problems?Now, I have told her that I'll be having a Ceserian delivery and therefore won't be comfortable much and in a presentable situation at that moment so I won't like other relatives to come to the hospital the very same day for seeing me. I requested her to tell them to come some other day. To which she again replied that "I and your cousin didn't have any problems with relatives visiting in the hospital then why are you having problem?"
Does she actually need to be told that I am NOT a clone of anyone in this world? Is her behavior normal? HUH! And after all this she keeps on wondering why I don't love her and welcome her in my house!
P.S.
It is not only about the situations. One day I told her that since since childhood I hadn't oiled my dry hair ever therefore now my hair is totally rough and dry, to which she replied that she neither used oil ever and her hair is fine, so why is only your hair dry and rough? :doh: