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Perhaps the question could even be generalized to say that your mother discusses topics and expresses prejudices that you would prefer your daughter not be exposed to.
Replace eating with hitting and breaking... this seems a behavior problem that has manifested at dinner time instead of play time. There may be an underlying problem with how much the child is eating but the problem with other childrens food is behavioral.
