We've got two daughters, aged 2 and 3. Our youngest has been battling with cancer for the past year and we've recently discovered that she has relapsed. At the moment we are still waiting for staging scans, but given the aggressiveness of her cancer (high-risk neuroblastoma) we are expecting that she doesn't have a lot of time left.
What can we do to help our 3-year old handle this situation?
She has been showing the strain a bit of late and we've engaged a couple of therapists, but are having a lot of trouble actually making appointments with the constraints on our time. I'm the only driver in our family and I'm also working full time, neither of which can be changed in time to make any difference. Grandparents are around, but working full time and not available to help out during the days.
She knows that her sister is sick and has had to spend a lot of time in the hospital where the doctors are trying to help her, but in a bit of a remote way. It's been a little tricky as we've had several lock-downs due to Covid-19, so she hasn't been able to spend much time in the hospital with her sister. We've also not wanted to expose her to the worse of the side effects, so she has usually been at home with the other parent while our youngest is in hospital with either myself or my wife.
I think this is going to be a fairly rapid decline and mostly at home as our treatment options are pretty much exhausted.
I'm looking especially for ideas/techniques we can use to help our 3-year old understand what is happening and come to terms with it, especially given she will be seeing a lot more of it than she has of the treatment thus far.