Timeline for 5yrs old being bossy... Is this too much or tolerable at this age?
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| Dec 18, 2019 at 19:22 | comment | added | Beofett | @Luaan those concerns are exactly why sending a kid to sit in the corner has been replaced with "time out". While some people treat them the same, I see "time out" as more of a recognition that the current situation involves unacceptable behavior, and that the best solution is to have everyone involved take a break. Time out should be a brief pause (I recall seeing recommendations of 1 minute per year of age, maximum) to allow emotions to calm, rather than isolation. | |
| Dec 18, 2019 at 12:52 | comment | added | coteyr | A few points. Yes, timeout is a poor solution. But some kids need that negative side to start their process of learning. However, like I said it should be a last attempt. Not a go-to. And timeout is not solitary confinement. It's supposed to be a chance to stop and consider their behavior. If your using timeout as "I'm Upset with you" then try time-in or think-about-it. | |
| Dec 18, 2019 at 8:35 | comment | added | Luaan | Aren't timeouts exactly the kind of "solution" that the kid is mimicking? Sending kids to kneel in the corner was a common punishment when I was a kid, and it never worked. And it's just another form of solitary confinement, which is a horrible thing to do to another person. There's a big difference between "I'm upset with you, and I'm not going to play with you now" and "I'm upset with you, so go lock yourself up in your room and stay there until I give you leave". | |
| Dec 17, 2019 at 9:30 | comment | added | Frank | Yes. Upvoted. Timeouts here would appear to be the solution. | |
| Dec 17, 2019 at 9:15 | history | answered | coteyr | CC BY-SA 4.0 |