- End the relationshp in peace: Go to couples therapy, and certify that the feelings around you are healed and that they will not come back to haunt you in the future, because you will never be able to stop seeing your ex completely.
- Be aware that after you brake up, maybe your spouse will find another guy who will spend time with your son too. Maybe you will get jealous/lack of trust about the guy, and maybe you cannot control too much what is going on... This will make you quite anxious.
- Consider if the mother will be likely to move out of the city (and how far) after you break up... thanthen it will make visitation a difficult topic, and this might cause you great psychological strain on you
- Is your job flexible enough that will allow you to see your kid? Can you find a flexible job to help you?
- Talk to people who experienced that first hand. Dont read too much. Talking to people feels more real and certain than reading books or asking on internet.