Timeline for Daughter is whining for every small thing since her brother was born
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| Mar 14, 2013 at 8:47 | comment | added | Kerieks | All you said is true, but like you said when you as mother is alone at home with your children there isn't somebody else to give your toddler the attention he needs.What I meant with not missing the attention of when he was alone is that he rather prefers now to play with his baby sister and me rather than playing alone or only us 2 playing.It's the togetherness which we had before she was born, but expanded it to not shut one child out because as a mother you have duties to all your children. Spending time or tending to baby will leave the older child feeling unwanted if he's not included... | |
| Mar 14, 2013 at 8:27 | comment | added | user3140 | I'd like to add an explanation: Children need continuity. If the mother is busy with the newborn, the older child needs someone else to give her what is now lacking. This was easier in larger familiy structures and is a problem only in the mother-alone-at-home-with-her-kids situation. Including the child in the activities is a good patch, ideally someone like the father or other familiy members or friends would give the older child the attention that it has not stopped needing because it now has a sibling. It's a bit unfair to expect a child to suddenly not need the same amount of love. | |
| Mar 11, 2013 at 9:55 | comment | added | Kerieks | At first it is a struggle, but it gets there, just hold on :) She is maybe still grasping the new "adventure"... Just include her as much as you can and explain how she was at that age (but be careful not to compare), that will help to explain that both she and now her brother has to cry (whine) to get what they need. Hope it all goes well! | |
| Mar 11, 2013 at 9:23 | comment | added | Shadow Wizard | Nice words, thanks! Actually we do lots of what you said, have the daughter help by taking diaper or bottle to the baby and watch when we feed or change him. So far it did not help much, but your word reassures me that it's the right direction. | |
| Mar 11, 2013 at 9:15 | history | answered | Kerieks | CC BY-SA 3.0 |