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What I do is

  • Tickle

    Tickle

  • Kid starts giggling, says "Stop" or "Red light!"

    Kid starts giggling, says "Stop" or "Red light!"

    • I've noticed that this seems to be reflex, and this is true for basically all of us, we instinctively say stop when tickled even if we are amused and enjoying the attention. If we had to always cease and desist, then we couldn't do this activity that we both like. Anyway...

  • I'll stop right away within a few seconds of her starting to say "Stop" --

  • but then I invite her to say "Green light," keeping my hands poised nearby and asking "is it green light? is it green light?"

  • She basically always says "GREEN LIGHT!" (and with a huge smile) after a second or two, and therefore she can still enjoy the play, while also feeling secure that she is and should be in control. Then we repeat the cycle a few times.

    • Or in contrast if she is in a mood where she doesn't want to be tickled or touched, after that first "stop" is when she'll say so, and then obviously it's time to quit. I would reinforce that with a statement like "Of course, we only tickle when it's fun for both people!"

I've noticed that this seems to be reflex, and thisnote: My girl is true for basically all of us, we instinctively say stop when tickled even if we are amused and enjoying the attention. If we had to always cease and desist3, then we couldn't do this activity that we both like.

So anyway I'll stop right away within a few seconds of her starting to say "Stop" -- but then I invite herintend to say "Green light," keeping my hands poised nearby and asking "is it green light? iskeep doing this for years based on how much fun it green light?" She basically always says yes after a second or two, and therefore she can still enjoy the play, while also feeling secure that she is and should be in control. Then we repeat the cycle a few times.

Or in contrast if she is in a mood where she doesn't want to be tickled or touched, after that first "stop" is when she'll say so, and then obviously it's time to quit. I would reinforce that with a statement like "Of course, we only tickle when it's fun for both peopleof us!"

What I do is

  • Tickle
  • Kid starts giggling, says "Stop" or "Red light!"

I've noticed that this seems to be reflex, and this is true for basically all of us, we instinctively say stop when tickled even if we are amused and enjoying the attention. If we had to always cease and desist, then we couldn't do this activity that we both like.

So anyway I'll stop right away within a few seconds of her starting to say "Stop" -- but then I invite her to say "Green light," keeping my hands poised nearby and asking "is it green light? is it green light?" She basically always says yes after a second or two, and therefore she can still enjoy the play, while also feeling secure that she is and should be in control. Then we repeat the cycle a few times.

Or in contrast if she is in a mood where she doesn't want to be tickled or touched, after that first "stop" is when she'll say so, and then obviously it's time to quit. I would reinforce that with a statement like "Of course, we only tickle when it's fun for both people!"

What I do is

  • Tickle

  • Kid starts giggling, says "Stop" or "Red light!"

    • I've noticed that this seems to be reflex, and this is true for basically all of us, we instinctively say stop when tickled even if we are amused and enjoying the attention. If we had to always cease and desist, then we couldn't do this activity that we both like. Anyway...

  • I'll stop right away within a few seconds of her starting to say "Stop" --

  • but then I invite her to say "Green light," keeping my hands poised nearby and asking "is it green light? is it green light?"

  • She basically always says "GREEN LIGHT!" (and with a huge smile) after a second or two, and therefore she can still enjoy the play, while also feeling secure that she is and should be in control. Then we repeat the cycle a few times.

    • Or in contrast if she is in a mood where she doesn't want to be tickled or touched, after that first "stop" is when she'll say so, and then obviously it's time to quit. I would reinforce that with a statement like "Of course, we only tickle when it's fun for both people!"

note: My girl is 3, but I intend to keep doing this for years based on how much fun it is for both of us!

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XP84
XP84
  • 401
  • 3
  • 6

What I do is

  • Tickle
  • Kid starts giggling, says "Stop" or "Red light!"

I've noticed that this seems to be reflex, and this is true for basically all of us, we instinctively say stop when tickled even if we are amused and enjoying the attention. If we had to always cease and desist, then we couldn't do this activity that we both like.

So anyway I'll stop right away within a few seconds of her starting to say "Stop" -- but then I invite her to say "Green light," keeping my hands poised nearby and asking "is it green light? is it green light?" She basically always says yes after a second or two, and therefore she can still enjoy the play, while also feeling secure that she is and should be in control. Then we repeat the cycle a few times.

Or in contrast if she is in a mood where she doesn't want to be tickled or touched, after that first "stop" is when she'll say so, and then obviously it's time to quit. I would reinforce that with a statement like "Of course, we only tickle when it's fun for both people!"