Timeline for How to figure out why parents are so strict about Internet access?
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| Feb 27, 2018 at 21:06 | comment | added | Clay07g | Everything is "inherently asocial" if you use this logic. If a person ignores all of the millions of social aspects of a computer, as well as the people physically around them, in what way does the blame fall on an inanimate object? Parenting SE always amazes me because the most upvoted content is the behavior that leads children not talking to you for the first 10 years of them moving out. Has anyone ever considered that children can be trusted to follow the rules without being physically forced? And perhaps physical enforcement is a last resort, not a first defense? | |
| Feb 19, 2018 at 3:08 | comment | added | tuskiomi | i'm not sure the "bedroom for bed" is a good reason. I live in a studio apartment. The entire apartment is my bedroom. I cook, eat, and sleep in my bedroom. The bedroom is to get away from people, not distractions. | |
| Feb 18, 2018 at 16:59 | comment | added | James Snell | Ok- here’s what I mean: the thing I wrote. | |
| Feb 18, 2018 at 1:54 | comment | added | Nij | Why don't you just say what you mean, instead of simplifying to an inaccurate absolute statement? "Computer use often leads regular users to avoid live interaction, and keeping them in public places forces the user to interact with others directly". You say they're inherently asocial tools, but that's true only from a perspective which supposes direct/live interaction as an axiom of (positive) socialisation. For those who have only negative experience with such society, or who require computers to interact at all, it is the exact opposite: computers are the definition of social tools. | |
| Feb 10, 2018 at 22:51 | comment | added | James Snell | @KeithM - Thanks for sharing your experience, I'm glad things worked out for you. Frequently they do not in such cases. I'm open to suggestions as to how you feel this should be worded whilst maintaining the point that keeping the machine in a public place forces the OP to directly interact with people and share their space, and that computer use frequently encourages users to eschew live interactions. | |
| Feb 10, 2018 at 19:30 | comment | added | Keith M | "Computers are inherently asocial tools" I really think you need to re-phrase that. As a kid I was very introverted and had some social anxiety so I had a hard time making friends. Once I started doing online gaming I met a lot of great people who I met up with later outside of games and have now been my best friends for several years. Computers can be a powerful social tool for those who are introverted, have social anxiety, etc. It's also been a nice perk because when I move I don't lose my friends ;) | |
| Feb 7, 2018 at 7:14 | comment | added | Peter Abolins | +1 for the mention of Computers are inherently asocial tools | |
| Feb 7, 2018 at 1:18 | comment | added | James Snell | @MarkYisri - and that point is followed by one about openness and honesty. You have to be honest with yourself that, having fought to get a machine then fought to get it into a private location, you will feel a need to fight the censorship and monitoring at some point in the future. | |
| S Feb 7, 2018 at 1:07 | history | suggested | zugzwang | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
There is a world of difference between "asocial" and "antisocial", and I doubt the intention is that all those who take computers into their rooms are engaging in destructive criminal behavior.
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| Feb 6, 2018 at 14:50 | comment | added | user26495 | My father was the one who initially taught me so that's why he knows I can defeat the monitoring system. I have no interest in doing that though. | |
| Feb 6, 2018 at 14:07 | history | answered | James Snell | CC BY-SA 3.0 |