Timeline for How to handle 5-year-old granddaughter shouting "Get out" (of her room)?
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| Oct 18, 2018 at 14:03 | comment | added | pojo-guy | @marisa I missed stating my point - IMHO the child's behavior is 100% correct for the situation, and does not need changing in substance although it could be refined at another time. | |
| Oct 18, 2018 at 12:12 | comment | added | Marisa | @pojo-guy Absolutely. However given the asker isn't a parent and can't reasonably expect to change the child's behavior, the next best thing is to find ways to manage and redirect it. | |
| Oct 18, 2018 at 1:50 | comment | added | pojo-guy | For a 5 year old, a calm "I want time alone" is reasonably polite and unmistakable. Heck, I'm more than 10 times that age, and its probably the way I'd express it (I have all the social graces of the average rutabaga). After that, unless you're the parent, you're in her territory, have not responded to a polite request to leave, and she is escalating the only way she knows how. | |
| Dec 7, 2017 at 13:39 | comment | added | Marisa | @DRF I added a smidge about that. Given that they're already aware of undesirable behavior from the granddaughter, I think they need to talk to the parents prior to the trip to establish ground rules, but this would be helpful for if that's not possible or if the parents don't give coherent guidelines. | |
| Dec 7, 2017 at 13:38 | history | edited | Marisa | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
added additional advice
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| Dec 7, 2017 at 10:25 | comment | added | DRF | I agree with pretty much all of this. The only thing I think is missing is that the grandparents should be allowed to react to the rude behaviour as they would with any other kid/adult. While they shouldn't discipline her unless they were delegated that responsibility by the parents, it seems fair to calmly point out that the way she behaves is/maybe rude. While leaving the room of course if the child has the authority to send them out. | |
| Dec 5, 2017 at 20:56 | history | edited | Marisa | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
finished a thought
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| Dec 5, 2017 at 12:46 | history | answered | Marisa | CC BY-SA 3.0 |