Timeline for Being told I'm father to a son I don't want
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| Jul 27, 2018 at 12:30 | history | edited | Anne Daunted GoFundMonica |
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| Aug 18, 2017 at 15:09 | comment | added | SAH | " I feel as though I'll become a lonely poor exhausted stressed person who just goes through life day to day with no real purpose or friends" -- you'll definitely have a purpose -- and, you might find, a friend -- if you're lucky enough to have a child. | |
| Jul 19, 2017 at 6:09 | comment | added | user1952500 | I think that you should know if he belongs to you or not, i.e., take the DNA test. The rest of the decision is left to you. Taking a DNA test is useful in today's world to help the son in his long term future (health etc) even after you have passed away. | |
| Jul 18, 2017 at 19:35 | answer | added | GentlePurpleRain | timeline score: 2 | |
| Jul 18, 2017 at 11:58 | comment | added | candied_orange | Yeah, is the issue that you don't know or that you don't want to know? | |
| Jul 18, 2017 at 10:19 | comment | added | komodosp | "My main issue is that I'm 50/50 on whether he is mine" - then why not do the DNA test? | |
| Jul 18, 2017 at 8:56 | comment | added | James | Mate, you live with your parents. Without them you'll be "on the street". Who will this child turn to in 20 years time? The mum sounds like a 'mare so it doesn't sound like the child will be able to rely on her. SO, you need to step up. Yes, it'll be f*king scary... and hard... and exhausting (just ask your parents). No one feels "capable" of being a parent at first but somehow they get through it. I was 15 years older than you, married to a Doctor and we had no idea what we were doing when we had our first. Let people help and grasp the nettle - you'll be far better than you think. Good luck. | |
| Jul 18, 2017 at 8:06 | comment | added | NoDataDumpNoContribution | "I'm finding it so difficult to process that he might be mine." The child might be yours. The only way to find out is the DNA test. The question is if you want to find out? | |
| Jul 18, 2017 at 5:15 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/StackParenting/status/887178978816958465 | ||
| Jul 18, 2017 at 0:02 | comment | added | Michael Kay | Grow up. Take some responsibility for your actions. Think of the mother and of the child, not only of yourself. You owe it to them to establish the facts, and if you are the father then you owe it to them to behave like one. If you do so, you will find that fatherhood, and the responsibilities that go with it, are the best thing that has ever happened to you. Nothing is so rewarding as taking responsibility for others. | |
| Jul 16, 2017 at 20:45 | comment | added | RBarryYoung | You really should talk to your parents about this. You might be surprised at how much they worried about parenthood too. Also, it might be wise to find out what the disposition of her parents is as well. | |
| Jul 16, 2017 at 9:26 | answer | added | Bob Jarvis - Слава Україні | timeline score: 1 | |
| Jul 16, 2017 at 6:28 | history | protected | Stephie♦ | ||
| Jul 15, 2017 at 2:44 | answer | added | Warren Dew | timeline score: 1 | |
| Jul 15, 2017 at 1:52 | comment | added | candied_orange | Why not get your own DNA test? Send samples in blind so the results only have meaning for you. That way it's totally your call and no one can leverage you. Could even go in with the other potential fathers and just sort this out. | |
| Jul 14, 2017 at 15:44 | answer | added | coteyr | timeline score: 5 | |
| Jul 14, 2017 at 15:39 | answer | added | MAA | timeline score: 3 | |
| S Jul 14, 2017 at 15:00 | history | suggested | Mindwin Remember Monica |
tagging for country of OP - removing adoption tag: OP either is the father or not.
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| Jul 14, 2017 at 13:42 | answer | added | anon | timeline score: -2 | |
| Jul 14, 2017 at 13:26 | review | Suggested edits | |||
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| Jul 14, 2017 at 12:48 | answer | added | Peter B | timeline score: 5 | |
| Jul 14, 2017 at 11:25 | comment | added | Acire | Please limit comments to asking for clarification -- if you have an answer, write an answer. And Be Nice :) | |
| S Jul 14, 2017 at 10:38 | history | suggested | CommunityBot | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
Brevity, grammar, etc.
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| Jul 14, 2017 at 9:51 | answer | added | DrMcCleod | timeline score: 8 | |
| Jul 14, 2017 at 6:11 | comment | added | Zaibis | @reirab: thanks for the info, still worth adding it to the post, so future readers dont have to scroll through comments to get that hint. | |
| Jul 14, 2017 at 0:05 | answer | added | Ian | timeline score: 2 | |
| Jul 13, 2017 at 19:16 | comment | added | reirab | @Zaibis OP's profile says he's in the UK. | |
| Jul 13, 2017 at 13:55 | comment | added | winny | Don't sign anything without a DNA/paternety test! Would you trust her it's yours in the first place? | |
| Jul 13, 2017 at 12:24 | comment | added | Marianne013 | Keep in mind, that if the child is meant to be put up for adoption the authorities would much rather have the consent of the father than an unclear situation. | |
| Jul 13, 2017 at 10:37 | answer | added | user28544 | timeline score: 13 | |
| Jul 13, 2017 at 9:20 | review | Close votes | |||
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| Jul 13, 2017 at 8:25 | comment | added | Zaibis | Just was gonna say the same. The OP contains a lot of law related considerations, where it would be helpful to know what country this takes places, since I think advice might be given more precise with that information. | |
| Jul 13, 2017 at 8:18 | comment | added | Royal Canadian Bandit | Lots of generic and/or USA based answers, but it sounds as if the poster is in the UK. I've answered assuming that he is. | |
| Jul 13, 2017 at 7:58 | answer | added | Royal Canadian Bandit | timeline score: 18 | |
| Jul 13, 2017 at 7:57 | review | Suggested edits | |||
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| Jul 13, 2017 at 7:35 | answer | added | JackArbiter | timeline score: 170 | |
| Jul 13, 2017 at 2:10 | answer | added | NOP | timeline score: 109 | |
| Jul 13, 2017 at 1:38 | comment | added | Mazura | Stop giving yourself colitis and go show this to your mom. You WILL feel better afterwards. | |
| Jul 13, 2017 at 0:25 | answer | added | Rui F Ribeiro | timeline score: 16 | |
| Jul 12, 2017 at 22:22 | answer | added | threetimes | timeline score: 10 | |
| Jul 12, 2017 at 20:08 | comment | added | I wrestled a bear once. | The father's name is not required to be on the birth certificate, especially if he is going to be put up for adoption. your options are either 1) be a dad or 2) don't. it's really that simple. if you don't want him then your responsibilities are over, someone else will take care of him. as the father you don't have any rights or responsibilities or privileges to that kid until a court tells you you have to take a paternity test, and the only way that will happen is if the mother keeps him and sues you for child support. | |
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| Jul 12, 2017 at 18:54 | history | asked | P.Handover | CC BY-SA 3.0 |