Timeline for Teenagers Ogling my Daughter. What to do?
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| Jan 8, 2021 at 14:48 | comment | added | user40261 | When naked, some people will look at you, but that might be everything which happens. Example: Milo Moiré at Basel Art 2014, "The Script System": youtube.com/watch?v=fp3kRUoPwhY | |
| Jun 23, 2017 at 14:14 | comment | added | sleske | @DmitryGrigoryev: Yes, that's how I understood it :-). I still though there was a serious question behind the joke, thus the answer. | |
| Jun 23, 2017 at 14:04 | comment | added | Dmitry Grigoryev | @sleske This was an attempt at a joke, I wasn't disagreeing or expecting a serious answer. | |
| Jun 23, 2017 at 13:57 | comment | added | sleske | @DmitryGrigoryev: Yes, if you are nude in a context where it is illegal, then that may be appropriate. Even an arrest can be performed respectfully - though I was thinking of situations where it is not strictly illegal... | |
| Jun 23, 2017 at 13:56 | comment | added | Dmitry Grigoryev | @Layna That's not how I read this. Sure, ogling is not a good thing, but it's not something the girl or her father can easily prevent. The problem can (to an extent) be alleviated by the wardrobe, why not try that? | |
| Jun 23, 2017 at 13:32 | comment | added | Dmitry Grigoryev | @sleske "Even if someone is naked, others can behave respectfully towards them" - like arresting them for public nudity? ;) | |
| Jun 23, 2017 at 12:56 | comment | added | phoog | "Always been a thing": if you consider 20 years to be "always." | |
| Jun 23, 2017 at 8:13 | comment | added | user1450877 | @sleske the difference is entirely subjective. | |
| Jun 23, 2017 at 7:11 | comment | added | sleske | @user1450877: The question is not about "looking at someone", it's about "ogling", which is different (at least the way I understand the words). And at least in my experience, ogling is (thankfully) less common than being looked at. | |
| Jun 23, 2017 at 7:10 | comment | added | sleske | @Layna: I'd say there is more than a ring of victim-shaming -there is zero excuse for ogling. Even if someone is naked, others can behave respectfully towards them. | |
| S Jun 23, 2017 at 6:52 | history | suggested | Toby Speight | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jun 22, 2017 at 13:41 | comment | added | user1450877 | talk of boundaries isn't of any use, in the real world you cannot set boundaries to stop people looking at you. Pretending you can educate half the population to act in some vaguely defined, highly situational 'respectful' way isn't a practical solution either. If the girl is uncomfortable about people looking at her then she either needs to get used to it or needs to take steps to mitigate the attention she gets. | |
| Jun 22, 2017 at 13:19 | comment | added | Layna | Sadly, this has an (admittedly very faint) ring of victim-shaming: they ogle you because of what YOU do, not because they don't know how to behave! In this case, adjusting the wardrobe MAY be fitting (depending on the wardrobe in question, which sound perfectly ok to me, and the teenage behaviour it causes). But the risk of creating a bad mindset should be kept in mind. | |
| Jun 22, 2017 at 13:17 | comment | added | McCann | Boys ogle girls in the winter, as well as the summer. Boys ogle when girls are dressed up nicely, as well as when they're wearing frumpy (or modest) clothes. It's best to just teach girls how to enforce their boundaries and teach boys how to be respectful (actually teaching both genders both skills is best). | |
| Jun 22, 2017 at 11:34 | comment | added | user1450877 | Always been a thing | |
| Jun 22, 2017 at 11:09 | comment | added | learner101 | IANAL is a thing now?! | |
| Jun 22, 2017 at 8:26 | history | answered | user1450877 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |