Timeline for Skater teen wears shoes with holes, and doesn't care
Current License: CC BY-SA 3.0
44 events
| when toggle format | what | by | license | comment | |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Jun 5, 2017 at 15:34 | comment | added | undo | I'm 16 and I had some pretty weird fashion choices. And then my SO pointedly objected and it all disappeared in a day. You seriously needn't be bothered about him/her. They'll probably stop eventually, and even if they don't, there's nothing wrong with it. | |
| Jun 5, 2017 at 14:50 | answer | added | Adam Davis | timeline score: 0 | |
| Jun 3, 2017 at 11:29 | comment | added | peterG | In fact, he does care very much. Just in the opposite direction to you. | |
| Jun 2, 2017 at 21:02 | comment | added | Rocky Raccoon | Some kids' families can't afford new shoes, and impoverished kids in some parts of the world go barefoot in dangerous places. Maybe it's a teachable moment for both of you to be grateful that he has a choice? Maybe follow @jscott's excellent guidance, then go ahead and buy a new pair of shoes and go together to donate them to charity? | |
| Jun 2, 2017 at 11:37 | comment | added | aroth | @Steve-O "my own concern as a parent would be more about his feet getting wet or injured" - I'm unsure why wet would be an issue. I live near the beach, wear sandals, and kiteboard; my feet get wet literally all the time. Causes zero problems. Injured is a better concern, with blisters being a real possibility. Especially if he keeps skating in his holey shoes. But blisters won't cause any long-term harm, and the pain will be a solid lesson on why it might be better to wear intact shoes. Not for appearances but because blisters hurt! | |
| Jun 2, 2017 at 8:36 | comment | added | aroth | "His answer to this is that he doesn't care what other people think and that I shouldn't either." - Listen to your son, for he is wise. | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 21:52 | comment | added | corsiKa | @EricDuminil Absolutely. I grew up in a punk band, very familiar with skate parks. I don't expect her to do much more than go up a ramp and back down, but even that is good practice. Most of the local skaters are super nice too, even they use a few more "mommy words" than they should... | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 18:23 | comment | added | Eric Duminil | @corsiKa: Beware! A skatepark isn't a playground, even though the whole family can have a lot of fun there! With pads and a helmet, it's great fun to just cruise around and go up and down the mellow transitions. | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 16:29 | comment | added | corsiKa | @EricDuminil My 6 year old just got her first board this weekend. The sidewalks are too rough to really skate on (especially at her age) but there's a skate park a couple blocks away that we're super excited to go to. Makes me miss the old days of being in the band... | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 16:13 | history | protected | CommunityBot | ||
| Jun 1, 2017 at 16:00 | answer | added | Sloloem | timeline score: 0 | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 10:42 | comment | added | the_lotus | When I was young, I used to say that. But in reality, I didn't want to be seen with shiny new shoes for some reason. | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 10:06 | answer | added | Noufal Ibrahim | timeline score: -1 | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 7:53 | comment | added | Rui F Ribeiro | I pretty well remember that his age I did not care much what clothes I was wearing, the quality of them, or how old they were. Boys will be boys. | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 7:29 | comment | added | Eric Duminil | +1 for Shoe Goo. I'm 35, a father of 6 year old girl, and have been skating for 15 years. I have holes in my shoes, some of my pants, some of my underwear and some of my t-shirts. I don't care. My colleagues don't care anymore. Every day during which I can skate is a very happy day. It helps me stay young in my head and enjoy life more with my family and friends. Be happy for your teen. Skating will teach him many valuable lessons, and will help release the surplus of anger/hormones/energy that 16 year olds might have. | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 7:15 | answer | added | Agent_L | timeline score: 0 | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 6:22 | comment | added | Steve Bennett | "it is embarrassing to walk around like this in public" - not to him, it's not. Apparently there aren't any negative consequences to him to getting the maximum possible life out of a pair of shoes, so why are you trying to create some? | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 2:36 | comment | added | martin | @Olba12 is spot on, it's not that he doesn't care what other people think, its that ripped up shoes are cool. Your best bet is probably to take him to a skate shop and have the salesperson there sell him on some new shoes. If he's not listening to you, he might listen to someone selling the image that he's going for. | |
| Jun 1, 2017 at 0:05 | comment | added | Jason C | Hey, I resent this. My shoes also have holes and I also do not care. And I'm 35. Anyways it could be worse; he could be wearing skin tight jeans, a replica John Deere hat, and square, black, thick-framed non-prescription glasses. And, on top of that, he could be a barista. | |
| May 31, 2017 at 21:32 | comment | added | Kevin Krumwiede | Scatter some caltrops around the house. | |
| May 31, 2017 at 21:03 | comment | added | Shane | "His answer to this is that he doesn't care what other people think and that I shouldn't either." He's right. You're wrong. Stop clutching those pearls and maybe learn a little wisdom and humility from your child. | |
| May 31, 2017 at 21:01 | answer | added | kingfrito_5005 | timeline score: 1 | |
| May 31, 2017 at 19:33 | comment | added | Olba12 | When I was around 16 I as well rode the skateboard. The shoe thing was a part of an identification "ohh he is also a skater, he must also be cool!". | |
| May 31, 2017 at 19:03 | answer | added | Mwspencer | timeline score: 10 | |
| May 31, 2017 at 17:51 | history | edited | 200_success | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
edited tags
|
| May 31, 2017 at 16:03 | comment | added | user11347 | "I always taught him not to care what other people think, but in this case I feel different." Perhaps your training should have made more clear what the exceptions are to this rule. (Nobody cares what other people think if you don't include all the occasions when they do) | |
| May 31, 2017 at 15:55 | comment | added | jeroen_de_schutter | If this is your only issue with a 16-year old teenager, you should consider yourself a very happy parent :-D | |
| May 31, 2017 at 15:37 | comment | added | Steve-O | Is your objection really only about appearances? If so, I have to say I think your son is right. Seems a bit hypocritical to teach him not to care about appearances and then object to his appearance. Regarding holey shoes in particular, my own concern as a parent would be more about his feet getting wet or injured through the holes, and the subsequent health issues that might create. | |
| May 31, 2017 at 14:16 | answer | added | DavePhD | timeline score: 11 | |
| S May 31, 2017 at 12:52 | history | mod moved comments to chat | |||
| S May 31, 2017 at 12:52 | comment | added | anongoodnurse | Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation has been moved to chat. | |
| May 31, 2017 at 11:07 | review | Suggested edits | |||
| May 31, 2017 at 13:56 | |||||
| May 31, 2017 at 10:16 | answer | added | NotThatGuy | timeline score: 0 | |
| May 31, 2017 at 9:14 | answer | added | Иво Недев | timeline score: 33 | |
| May 31, 2017 at 8:26 | answer | added | Joachim Weiß | timeline score: 1 | |
| May 31, 2017 at 6:51 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/StackParenting/status/869808509961076737 | ||
| May 30, 2017 at 23:00 | comment | added | jscott | Invest in some Shoe Goo. It can be applied to the outside of new skate shoes in multiple thin layers as a protective. As the grip tape scrapes it away, reapply. For heavily damaged shoes place a layer of duct tape inside the shoe to cover holes and then apply goo outside. Shape uncured goo using an ice cube (yes really). It also works decent as a contact adhesive to reattach separated soles. I say this as a former 16 year old skater with ratty shoes and now parent. | |
| May 30, 2017 at 22:28 | answer | added | Kai Qing | timeline score: 21 | |
| May 30, 2017 at 22:10 | answer | added | user26011 | timeline score: 2 | |
| May 30, 2017 at 18:32 | answer | added | anongoodnurse | timeline score: 123 | |
| May 30, 2017 at 18:12 | answer | added | Becuzz | timeline score: 5 | |
| May 30, 2017 at 17:31 | answer | added | WRX | timeline score: 70 | |
| May 30, 2017 at 17:11 | review | First posts | |||
| May 30, 2017 at 17:14 | |||||
| May 30, 2017 at 17:09 | history | asked | Jessica Hamsley | CC BY-SA 3.0 |