Timeline for How can I be more sympathetic towards my children when they are injured?
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| May 3, 2017 at 18:50 | comment | added | anongoodnurse | @notstoreboughtdirt - Thanks for the interpretation! | |
| May 3, 2017 at 18:45 | comment | added | user26011 | @anongoodnurse #3 means he's a good kid. Letting unruly kids run loose has been cited as the worst thing you can do in a restaurant. | |
| May 3, 2017 at 18:36 | comment | added | anongoodnurse | @Crowley - With #1, I beg to differ. I treated my children and spouse, as well as other relatives and friends, quite frequently when it was within my purview, and let others treat when it was not. #2 is a given. Sorry, but comment #3 makes no sense at all to me. | |
| May 3, 2017 at 16:26 | comment | added | Crowley | @anongoodnurse There are morals in the story: 1. Never cure your realtives. It is like conflict of interests anywhere else. 2. Everybody makes mistakes sometimes. Everybody. 3. If your son complained only when playing piano, and playing piano with broken fingers really hurts, I would let him walk around the restaurant without marking it as "the worst thing you can do in the restaurant". | |
| May 2, 2017 at 14:18 | comment | added | anongoodnurse | After 10 days - yep, 10 days - I finally took him in for xrays, and sure enough it was broken, a non-displaced spiral fracture. Dutifully, we went from the ED to the orthopedist, who gave me a 'look' and said, "HOW LONG AGO DID YOU SAY this happened?" Heh, um... To my knowledge, this is the only injury my son remembers my response to. At least it's the only one he brings up. There's no real moral to this story. Parenting styles are different. Kids tend to parent the way they were parented. I guess I will only say that this approach won't work with every kid. | |
| May 2, 2017 at 14:15 | comment | added | anongoodnurse | @RoryAlsop - I am very empathetic by nature (part of why I became a doctor.) So when I laughed off an injury my son had, it backfired on me in a very personally embarrassing way. My son was doing rolls down a hill, and hurt his thumb. He thought (in all his seven years of acquired wisdom) he broke it. I assessed and told him everything looked ok, that we'd see how he did with time. Well, he never complained about it except during piano practice. He played nintendo with it, roughhoused with his friends with it, did everything without complaining except for piano practice. (cont.) | |
| May 1, 2017 at 18:24 | comment | added | Rory Alsop♦ | I actually quite like this answer. Generally we do a quick check to make sure the child is fine and then laugh it off. Now they are older, they don't mind minor scrapes, and even though my eldest breaks toes occasionally (he does a lot of extreme-ish sports) he laughs them off - so whenever they do react really strongly we know it is serious! It's all about re-framing. | |
| May 1, 2017 at 2:54 | comment | added | Catija | "I told you so" is onr of the worst thing you can say to a person... kids, doubly so. | |
| Apr 30, 2017 at 21:43 | history | answered | user26011 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |