Timeline for Seventeen year old daughter wants to take an international trip to meet someone she met online
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| Dec 8, 2016 at 14:51 | comment | added | McCann | Also - ask your daughter about the other girl often in a non-judgmental way. Teenagers can sometimes think better and more critically if talking. Ask about details, how they met online (a fan forum for a show she likes or a dating site?), what the other girl's favorite class is, etc. Ask questions that will illuminate how well she knows the other girl (it's a red flag if the girl has no history or facts beyond that she's in love with your daughter). | |
| Dec 8, 2016 at 7:02 | comment | added | Dawood ibn Kareem | This is good advice. If it were me, I would insist on speaking to the other girl's parents. If the arrangement is "real" (that is, the other girl actually exists and isn't a sexual predator pretending to be a teenage girl), then her parents may well be just as concerned as you are. | |
| Dec 8, 2016 at 1:49 | comment | added | Jason B. | "Being confrontational will surely shut her down and likely do what she wants without telling you" - this is the most important part. The daughter is about to become a legal adult and the degree to which she respects her parents opinion is dependent on how much her parents treat her with respect | |
| Dec 7, 2016 at 18:31 | vote | accept | Dave Farrington | ||
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| Dec 7, 2016 at 16:31 | comment | added | Anoplexian | +1. Getting to know the girl is a better option than assuming the worst. You may have experience and judgement, but sometimes parents forget that they're not always right and their child has judgement too. You know the risks, but are overlooking the benefits of a successful long distance relationship. As other answers note, the goals are not to "keep them safe", and preventing them from having someone to turn to, whether it's you (by overprotection) or the friend (by removing her relationship), you will cause more damage than getting to know the girl your daughter is interested in. | |
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| Dec 7, 2016 at 16:19 | history | answered | BeenThere | CC BY-SA 3.0 |