Hmmm... As Stephanie above has mentioned, this is pretty much what a kid of this age will do (give or take a few behaviours!).

I'm providing a perspective from my own experience. Hope it helps you out! Being from India, I get your angle probably a bit better than most here. However, please forgive me if I've read your situation in the wrong manner.

One question: Is your kid very active? Does he have boundless energy through the day? Are there periods where he just seems to crash (sleep?) and then rebound after a recharge?

If so, he might be just a high-energy kid, who isn't getting enough ways to expend that energy in a positive manner. Typically, a high-energy kid ends up exhausting his parents by constant demands for some form of recreation. They soon learn to ignore this incessant demand. Since they ignore him, he learns to use negative behaviour as a method for getting the attention that he wants. Any attention (even negative) is better than no attention. This can get perceived as "naughtiness" by parents.

When I say this, I don't mean that you aren't paying attention, just maybe not enough according to him.

Try enrolling him in activities that involve him. Drawing classes, swimming, running, high-energy demanding activities are good, as long as they don't overtax him.

As far as I can see, it is very important to be consistent with the way you treat him. Tantrums should be allowed to happen, just don't react (negatively/positively as well) TILL it is complete. Don't suppress, Don't encourage either! Though it is difficult for mother's to see their child crying, you must remind yourself that this type of crying is not due to physical hurt, or some pain.

Best way is to take him into a quiet room, and sit with him while he goes through his negative feelings. No negative reactions from you, just let him know that even if it takes two hours of crying/tantrum throwing, he will not get what he's clamouring for.

Once he calms down (which might happen only after say 30-45 minutes of tantrum, even upto 2 hours). The problem that most parents face is that they try allowing the tantrum to fizzle out on it's own, but a determined kid will rage on for so long, that they give up, and either end up shouting or beating the child for being so obstinate.

Here's a great book "The Aware Baby" which talks about how negative emotions are a part of our psyche, and how suppressing them doesn't do any good. Though this book primarily talks about small children, it definitely applies even to kids of your child's age.

Hope this helps!

Hmmm... As Stephanie above has mentioned, this is pretty much what a kid of this age will do (give or take a few behaviours!).

I'm providing a perspective from my own experience. Hope it helps you out! Being from India, I get your angle probably a bit better than most here. However, please forgive me if I've read your situation in the wrong manner.

One question: Is your kid very active? Does he have boundless energy through the day? Are there periods where he just seems to crash (sleep?) and then rebound after a recharge?

If so, he might be just a high-energy kid, who isn't getting enough ways to expend that energy in a positive manner. Typically, a high-energy kid ends up exhausting his parents by constant demands for some form of recreation. They soon learn to ignore this incessant demand. Since they ignore him, he learns to use negative behaviour as a method for getting the attention that he wants. Any attention (even negative) is better than no attention. This can get perceived as "naughtiness" by parents.

When I say this, I don't mean that you aren't paying attention, just maybe not enough according to him.

Try enrolling him in activities that involve him. Drawing classes, swimming, running, high-energy demanding activities are good, as long as they don't overtax him.

As far as I can see, it is very important to be consistent with the way you treat him. Tantrums should be allowed to happen, just don't react (negatively/positively as well) TILL it is complete. Don't suppress, Don't encourage either! Though it is difficult for a mother to see their child crying, you must remind yourself that this type of crying is not due to physical hurt, or some pain.

Best way is to take him into a quiet room, and sit with him while he goes through his negative feelings. No negative reactions from you, just let him know that even if it takes two hours of crying/tantrum throwing, he will not get what he's clamouring for.

Once he calms down (which might happen only after say 30-45 minutes of tantrum, even upto 2 hours). The problem that most parents face is that they try allowing the tantrum to fizzle out on it's own, but a determined kid will rage on for so long, that they give up, and either end up shouting or beating the child for being so obstinate.

Here's a great book "The Aware Baby" which talks about how negative emotions are a part of our psyche, and how suppressing them doesn't do any good. Though this book primarily talks about small children, it definitely applies even to kids of your child's age.

Hope this helps!