Sounds like you're beyond frustrated with your son. And for good reasons! Although they may seem out of the ordinary and even unruly behaviors, what you're describing are actually age appropriate behaviors for a 5 year old. At 5 years old your son is learning how to interact with the world and push his limits. It's your job as the parent to set and follow-through with the limits. One way of going about it is to take away what he likes. Unfortunately, punishment only lasts temporarily, or not at all like you're noticing.

Children need structure and consistency. Yet, before any structure can happen, children need to feel heard. It might be worth trying to begin with empathy by letting him know you hear how he feels. It might look something like, "I hear you're angry when using bad words" or "It sounds like you're upset when you're yelling." Once children feel they are being heard, they can then listen to the limit you're setting. This is where the magic "and" comes in. "I hear you're angry when using bad words, AND, we use kind words with one another" or "I hear you're angry when using bad words, AND, please speak quieter so I can listen."

Any limit you set won't mean much if it isn't consistent, though. Feel free to reach out of you have other questions - happy to help.

Sounds like you're beyond frustrated with your son. And for good reasons! Although they may seem out of the ordinary and even unruly behaviors, what you're describing are actually age appropriate behaviors for a 5-year-old. At 5 years old, your son is learning how to interact with the world and push his limits. It's your job as the parent to set and follow-through with the limits. One way of going about it is to take away what he likes. Unfortunately, punishment only lasts temporarily, or not at all like you're noticing.

Children need structure and consistency. Yet, before any structure can happen, children need to feel heard. It might be worth trying to begin with empathy by letting him know you hear how he feels. It might look something like, "I hear you're angry when using bad words" or "It sounds like you're upset when you're yelling." Once children feel they are being heard, they can then listen to the limit you're setting. This is where the magic "and" comes in. "I hear you're angry when using bad words, AND, we use kind words with one another" or "I hear you're angry when using bad words, AND, please speak quieter so I can listen."

Any limit you set won't mean much if it isn't consistent, though. Feel free to reach out if you have other questions - happy to help.

Sounds like you're beyond frustrated with your son. And for good reasons! Although they may seem out of the ordinary and even unruly behaviors, what you're describing are actually age appropriate behaviors for a 5 year old. At 5 years old your son is learning how to interact with the world and push his limits. It's your job as the parent to set and follow-through with the limits. One way of going about it is to take away what he likes. Unfortunately, punishment only lasts temporarily, or not at all like you're noticing.

Children need structure and consistency. Yet, before any structure can happen, children need to feel heard. It might be worth trying to begin with empathy by letting him know you hear how he feels. It might look something like, "I hear you're angry when using bad words" or "It sounds like you're upset when you're yelling." Once children feel they are being heard, they can then listen to the limit you're setting. This is where the magic "and" comes in. "I hear you're angry when using bad words, AND, we use kind words with one another" or "I hear you're angry when using bad words, AND, please speak quieter so I can listen."

Any limit you set won't mean much if it isn't consistent, though. Feel free to reach out of you have other questions - happy to help.

Kindly,

Stephanie

www.motivationalparenting.com

Sounds like you're beyond frustrated with your son. And for good reasons! Although they may seem out of the ordinary and even unruly behaviors, what you're describing are actually age appropriate behaviors for a 5 year old. At 5 years old your son is learning how to interact with the world and push his limits. It's your job as the parent to set and follow-through with the limits. One way of going about it is to take away what he likes. Unfortunately, punishment only lasts temporarily, or not at all like you're noticing.

Children need structure and consistency. Yet, before any structure can happen, children need to feel heard. It might be worth trying to begin with empathy by letting him know you hear how he feels. It might look something like, "I hear you're angry when using bad words" or "It sounds like you're upset when you're yelling." Once children feel they are being heard, they can then listen to the limit you're setting. This is where the magic "and" comes in. "I hear you're angry when using bad words, AND, we use kind words with one another" or "I hear you're angry when using bad words, AND, please speak quieter so I can listen."

Any limit you set won't mean much if it isn't consistent, though. Feel free to reach out of you have other questions - happy to help.