Timeline for Should I let my baby play with oranges?
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| Dec 10, 2015 at 18:48 | history | protected | Stephie♦ | ||
| Dec 9, 2015 at 18:10 | comment | added | Steve Jessop | @EdPlunkett: Well, I've engaged with it by disagreeing with it, and we're at impasse. So it goes. Fortunately we have no need to reach consensus. | |
| Dec 9, 2015 at 18:02 | comment | added | Ed Plunkett | @SteveJessop 1) See the highest voted answer. 2) If you're unable or unwilling to engage with what I actually said, the conversation is over. Sorry. | |
| Dec 9, 2015 at 18:02 | comment | added | Steve Jessop | @EdPlunkett: the question is about whether it's OK for babies to play with oranges. In your opinion, it is unreasonable not to let them do so, fair enough. But if that was clear then the questioner wouldn't be asking whether it's OK or not. I get that people are also interested in helping the questioner get his way, but I think the approach "as long as you think you're right, charge on" lacks something. It's not really about retaliation: if that's what you do then you have no standing to criticise it in others, is all. Your partner can "use her own sound judgement" too. | |
| Dec 9, 2015 at 15:20 | comment | added | Ed Plunkett | @SteveJessop The question is how to deal with clearly unreasonable behavior. You don't reward it, and you don't try to reason somebody out of it while they're still caught up in it. If you feel that you must reward it or else your partner will retaliate later on, that is a very dysfunctional relationship. I've been unreasonable once or twice (ha), and after I calmed down I knew I'd been wrong. Every time. My partner is the same. 99.9% of the time we're both being reasonable and we just find something we both agree on. That part's easy. OP didn't ask for advice about that case. | |
| Dec 9, 2015 at 12:00 | comment | added | Steve Jessop | @EdPlunkett: if you do that, you do of course have to accept the reverse situation, that down the line your partner will give the child permission to do things that you disagree with, knowing that you disagree, ignoring your disagreement, and refusing to let you speak about them. But if that's the way one partner wants to play it, of course the other cannot require consensus. | |
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| Dec 8, 2015 at 21:16 | comment | added | Ed Plunkett | @JimW Of course she laughed. You can't make her go to bed. Just as OP's wife can't make him argue. And OP can't make her admit that oranges are safe. He shouldn't try; he should calmly refuse to feed the craziness or obey the orders. It works for me (if nothing improves after a year, consider a trade-in). The grim exception is mental illness, but OP didn't mention that. | |
| Dec 8, 2015 at 21:16 | comment | added | Christiaan Westerbeek | I once noticed my child (at a year of age or so) eat an orange with peel and everything. She vomited it al out in her sleep. Not sure if the peel caused that or pesticides on it. She survived of course. Today (at the age of 4) she has not developed allergies to anything I know of. | |
| Dec 8, 2015 at 19:29 | comment | added | Jim W | @EdPlunkett "the conversation is over" does that usually work for you? I once told my wife "that's it, go to bed" during an argument, and she barely stifled a laugh. | |
| Dec 8, 2015 at 19:01 | comment | added | Ed Plunkett | You don't want to trigger an outburst in front of the child, but it might be wise to say "we'll revisit this" and have a quiet talk when the child is in bed. In the talk you would say that a) oranges are safe and it is bad to frighten the child with fruit, and b) the conversation is over. Don't argue or persuade or justify; that conversation will continue until you lose your temper, which does far more harm than good. You can't persuade her, but it's not necessary to persuade her. It's only necessary for her to accept that you will use your own sound judgment regarding oranges. | |
| Dec 8, 2015 at 14:27 | comment | added | Steve Jessop | Country might be relevant. Someone mentions "official" advice to wash hands after handling oranges. Here in the UK, I don't think oranges are allowed to be sold at the point where the pesticide residue requires this precaution, but E.coli can get on anything and there have recently been rare but high-profile cases of whole batches of raw vegetables making people ill for this reason. So while the official advice might be similar in (for example) the US and the UK, it's not necessarily about the same danger. | |
| Dec 8, 2015 at 11:49 | answer | added | user20098 | timeline score: 2 | |
| S Dec 7, 2015 at 20:06 | history | suggested | user6589 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Dec 7, 2015 at 19:37 | answer | added | J. Taylor | timeline score: 2 | |
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| Dec 7, 2015 at 10:51 | answer | added | Guillaume | timeline score: 14 | |
| Dec 7, 2015 at 10:17 | answer | added | Wang-Lo. | timeline score: 72 | |
| Dec 6, 2015 at 22:22 | comment | added | Acire | Possibly related (although dealing with peeled citrus fruit): Is citrus fruit safe for babies? | |
| Dec 6, 2015 at 19:05 | answer | added | The Thrifty Engineer | timeline score: 3 | |
| Dec 6, 2015 at 14:39 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/StackParenting/status/673511981085782017 | ||
| Dec 6, 2015 at 12:18 | answer | added | user4758 | timeline score: 5 | |
| Dec 6, 2015 at 9:48 | answer | added | Stephie♦ | timeline score: 21 | |
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| Dec 6, 2015 at 9:13 | history | asked | dad | CC BY-SA 3.0 |