Timeline for My 15-year-old daughter is having sex with her boyfriend who is a drug dealer
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| Jun 3, 2017 at 14:05 | comment | added | Jason C | @Physics-Compute On one hand, there's your beliefs and a feeling that you can control all things, but on the other hand, there's reality and actually dealing with it. You decide. Unless you want to risk becoming an early grandparent. | |
| Jun 3, 2017 at 5:31 | comment | added | user24631 | @JasonC There is no such thing as safe sex with a child. Sex with a child is abhorrent and should be immediately stopped and dealt with. | |
| Jun 2, 2017 at 3:41 | history | edited | Aquarius_Girl | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| May 1, 2017 at 0:17 | comment | added | gnasher729 | Google for "why do drug dealers still live with their moms" and show her the results. Not only is the money pathetic to any adult, but it's a dangerous job (there's a claim that death risk of drug dealers in some places is higher than death risk of convicted criminals on death row in Texas). | |
| Apr 27, 2017 at 15:43 | comment | added | Jason C | She's going to have sex (regardless of whether this relationship continues or not, there will be others, both good and bad). Teach her the importance of safe and protected sex, at least. In my opinion the worst thing you can do, long term, is create an environment where she consistently hides things from you or feels ashamed of her actions / relationships in general, because then, communication breaks down entirely. (And also, though, drug dealer, yeah, you should find a way to do something about that. But this comment is just about the sex part!) | |
| Apr 12, 2017 at 18:53 | comment | added | Omegacron | @DRF - agreed, the problem is usually catching them. I speak from experience, though - my daughter dated a guy at 16 who had a warrant for possession. Once we found out, we called the police and told them where they could find the guy. They picked him up two days later and shipped him off to whatever state the warrant was for. Problem solved. | |
| Apr 11, 2017 at 7:54 | comment | added | DRF | @Omegacron That is fairly unlikely. The problem the police have with catching and punishing drug dealers is rarely the fact that they don't know WHO they are. | |
| Apr 10, 2017 at 14:34 | comment | added | Omegacron | If you know he's a drug dealer, simply notify the police. They'll take care of the problem for you. | |
| Apr 10, 2017 at 5:35 | comment | added | mtraceur | @Egg Couldn't this backfire though? People often over-estimate their likelihood of "making it big", and drug dealing is no exception. For every few hundred small-time drug mules that makes a couple hundred here and there, there's a bigger distributor raking in wads of cash, and so on up the chain. Just like in every other "career" path, people tend to think that one day, that could be them. | |
| Dec 31, 2016 at 10:52 | comment | added | Sascha | I definitely agree with Erik. The Question here is not "my daughter is having sex" but "my daughter has a relationship with a drug dealer". | |
| May 20, 2015 at 15:02 | answer | added | aparente001 | timeline score: -3 | |
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| May 14, 2015 at 23:47 | comment | added | Kai Qing | I'm a little bit of a psycho so maybe my approach might not be what you're looking for. What if you show an interest in him? Isn't it typical of teenagers to like guys their parents don't approve of? What if you were always inviting him over, asking her about him, telling her how much you like him, etc? I had a friend get very upset once because her mom approved of me too much. She showed so much of an interest that her daughter pretty much vanished from my life. She gave me a bag of her daughter's hair! Reverse psychology and an instant turn off. If it backfires... worst idea ever. | |
| May 14, 2015 at 23:14 | answer | added | Atsby | timeline score: 9 | |
| May 14, 2015 at 20:45 | comment | added | Egg | It may be worth mentioning to her that, as an adult, trying to be a bad boy looks totally pathetic. Maybe ask her if she sees herself tagging along in his exciting life in her 20s, when the few hundred bucks you can make dealing bad weed to your friends looks more like failure and less like the high life. Also, where are his parents? | |
| May 14, 2015 at 16:42 | comment | added | user11394 | If you're in the USA we also need to know your state. Some states have wildly different consent laws. | |
| May 14, 2015 at 14:51 | answer | added | Acire | timeline score: 24 | |
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| May 14, 2015 at 13:25 | comment | added | A E | What country are you in? Here in the UK, your daughter would be under the age of consent and her boyfriend over the age of consent, so there would be a potential legal issue (for the boyfriend). | |
| May 14, 2015 at 13:21 | history | edited | A E | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| May 14, 2015 at 12:43 | answer | added | Stephen | timeline score: 5 | |
| May 14, 2015 at 12:40 | comment | added | Dariusz | Make her watch you browse internet for "drug abusers". Some lively pictures may show her that what he's doing is ... evil? | |
| May 14, 2015 at 12:33 | history | edited | Acire | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| May 14, 2015 at 12:29 | answer | added | Tolga Ozses | timeline score: -5 | |
| May 14, 2015 at 12:26 | comment | added | Acire | Welcome to Parenting.SE :) Another Q&A that may have some useful information (generally applicable, about talking to teenage children about sexual activity): What should we do when our 15 year old wants sex with his 13 year old girlfriend? | |
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