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I think you're overthinking this a bit. It's great for brainstorming, but don't let little things like whether or not she gets to play with dolls distract you from your primary laudable goal of raising an amazing daughter.

For instance, why wouldn't an intelligent and happy child be able to enjoy and possibly even benefit from a bit of TV? What's so terrible about, say, Frozen (aside from it inducing your daughter to buy an endless stream of toys and such)?

The world is an interesting place! Don't hide your daughter from most of it--go explore it with her. Of course you have to be there to say no: not too many sweets, not too much TV, no you can't have a fifth Elsa doll even if you did cut the hair off of the second one. But I recommend you focus more on what you expose her to than what you hide her from, and when there is something that you think should be avoided, you should (as early as possible) engage her in understanding why.

Early reading*? Early potty training? Gymnastics? Martial arts? Piano? Violin? Nature documentaries? Physics? Computer programming? Basketball? Pets--dogs, cats, guinea pigs? What will teach her the value of focus and practice? What will teach her self-reliance (that is, to handle things without you there at all)? What will teach her self-control and train her willpower? What will teach her kindness and empathy? What will teach her perseverance?

And remember, she will be a person, too. Raising her is something you do with her not to her. You can't ask her what she wants yet, or figure out what's working, what's not, and how to make it better. But you will soon. Good luck!

I think you're overthinking this a bit. It's great for brainstorming, but don't let little things like whether or not she gets to play with dolls distract you from your primary laudable goal of raising an amazing daughter.

For instance, why wouldn't an intelligent and happy child be able to enjoy and possibly even benefit from a bit of TV? What's so terrible about, say, Frozen (aside from it inducing your daughter to buy an endless stream of toys and such)?

The world is an interesting place! Don't hide your daughter from most of it--go explore it with her. Of course you have to be there to say no: not too many sweets, not too much TV, no you can't have a fifth Elsa doll even if you did cut the hair off of the second one. But I recommend you focus more on what you expose her to than what you hide her from, and when there is something that you think should be avoided, you should (as early as possible) engage her in understanding why.

Early reading*? Early potty training? Gymnastics? Martial arts? Piano? Violin? Nature documentaries? Physics? Computer programming? Basketball? Pets--dogs, cats, guinea pigs? What will teach her the value of focus and practice? What will teach her self-reliance? What will teach her self-control and train her willpower? What will teach her kindness and empathy? What will teach her perseverance?

And remember, she will be a person, too. Raising her is something you do with her not to her. You can't ask her what she wants yet, or figure out what's working, what's not, and how to make it better. But you will soon. Good luck!

I think you're overthinking this a bit. It's great for brainstorming, but don't let little things like whether or not she gets to play with dolls distract you from your primary laudable goal of raising an amazing daughter.

For instance, why wouldn't an intelligent and happy child be able to enjoy and possibly even benefit from a bit of TV? What's so terrible about, say, Frozen (aside from it inducing your daughter to buy an endless stream of toys and such)?

The world is an interesting place! Don't hide your daughter from most of it--go explore it with her. Of course you have to be there to say no: not too many sweets, not too much TV, no you can't have a fifth Elsa doll even if you did cut the hair off of the second one. But I recommend you focus more on what you expose her to than what you hide her from, and when there is something that you think should be avoided, you should (as early as possible) engage her in understanding why.

Early reading*? Early potty training? Gymnastics? Martial arts? Piano? Violin? Nature documentaries? Physics? Computer programming? Basketball? Pets--dogs, cats, guinea pigs? What will teach her the value of focus and practice? What will teach her self-reliance (that is, to handle things without you there at all)? What will teach her self-control and train her willpower? What will teach her kindness and empathy? What will teach her perseverance?

And remember, she will be a person, too. Raising her is something you do with her not to her. You can't ask her what she wants yet, or figure out what's working, what's not, and how to make it better. But you will soon. Good luck!

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Rex Kerr
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I think you're overthinking this a bit. It's great for brainstorming, but don't let little things like whether or not she gets to play with dolls distract you from your primary laudable goal of raising an amazing daughter.

For instance, why wouldn't an intelligent and happy child be able to enjoy and possibly even benefit from a bit of TV? What's so terrible about, say, Frozen (aside from it inducing your daughter to buy an endless stream of toys and such)?

The world is an interesting place! Don't hide your daughter from most of it--go explore it with her. Of course you have to be there to say no: not too many sweets, not too much TV, no you can't have a fifth Elsa doll even if you did cut the hair off of the second one. But I recommend you focus more on what you expose her to than what you hide her from, and when there is something that you think should be avoided, you should (as early as possible) engage her in understanding why.

Early reading*? Early potty training? Gymnastics? Martial arts? Piano? Violin? Nature documentaries? Physics? Computer programming? Basketball? Pets--dogs, cats, guinea pigs? What will teach her the value of focus and practice? What will teach her self-reliance? What will teach her self-control and train her willpower? What will teach her kindness and empathy? What will teach her perseverance?

And remember, she will be a person, too. Raising her is something you do with her not to her. You can't ask her what she wants yet, or figure out what's working, what's not, and how to make it better. But you will soon. Good luck!