Timeline for How do I motivate my ten-year old to take responsibility and to do his best?
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| Mar 19, 2015 at 1:26 | comment | added | joblial | I think using computer games can really enhance some aspects of mental development but it can't be at the expense of all structured activities. He is very resistant to receiving instruction and insists on doing it his own way which would be OK if he would persist if/when this fails but it usually triggers frustration and giving up. I often try and sit with him to work through some (online) maths homework or literacy exercise - it can be an achievement to even get him to start but he quickly loses patience and can become quite confrontational (its boring..you can't make me..stop bugging me" | |
| Mar 17, 2015 at 18:33 | comment | added | user5193682 | I was computer game addicted from 13 to 15 years old, and my father had the same worries. Computer games allows you to learn on the flow, instead of with the rules. I used this principle for other aspects of my life when I was much older, and it was really useful. With games you are exposed to many iteractions per second, and learning by making mistakes is efficient because you have so many iteractions in a short period of time. On this case, its much quicker than learning by reading rules. Try to find some apps for school learning which uses the same principle, and he will go better at school | |
| Mar 17, 2015 at 18:22 | comment | added | user5193682 | I also had difficulty to follow rules. For instance, when I took a course on painting, I choose it to be an "experimental painting" course, where I could learn with no rules. Maybe your kid is just like me in the sense that his learning style is learning by doing and making mistakes. Some people learn by thinking or observing some other people doing stuff, but some learn just by their mistakes. So take this into consideration with your kid. It could also be that he, like me, likes to learn things with enjoyment, or with many people involved, and cant find any reward in doing tasks alone. | |
| Mar 16, 2015 at 4:35 | comment | added | joblial | Thanks for your answer... We don't place too much emphasis on academic achievements - he is only 10 after all and we would support him in whatever he wants to do but I'm afraid we do have to draw the line at allowing him to spend hours on end playing video games. He loves unstructured play but as soon as you or his peers put rules in place he struggles. Its also really difficult to draw out from him why he gets stressed and doesn't want to have a go at so many things that his peers enjoy. As soon as we try to talk it through with him, he closes down | |
| Mar 4, 2015 at 21:18 | history | answered | user5193682 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |