Timeline for What should I do if my 15 year old son is sexually interested in younger boys?
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| Apr 18, 2015 at 5:05 | answer | added | aparente001 | timeline score: 0 | |
| Apr 16, 2015 at 9:49 | comment | added | yo' | @HopelessN00b At any time until your puberty and post-puberty is over, things can change easily since your hormones change rapidly, and so does your brain. And even after that, there's the time of self-recognition, which can be pretty long. Some people realize their sexual orientation and preferences very late, and what they liked at 15 and at 40 is very different. Though, showing a preference for 8yos at the age of 15 seems like a sign of "love for children". | |
| Apr 14, 2015 at 2:21 | answer | added | One Thinker | timeline score: 3 | |
| Apr 13, 2015 at 22:04 | answer | added | Tyger | timeline score: 4 | |
| Apr 13, 2015 at 0:04 | answer | added | KTC | timeline score: -7 | |
| Feb 24, 2015 at 5:36 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/#!/StackParenting/status/570094991294521344 | ||
| Feb 23, 2015 at 19:52 | comment | added | Ender Wiggin | @HopelessN00b I think it's a very slim chance but who knows. Human sexuality is a complex thing but it's true that by 15 it is pretty much cemented most of the time. My attraction to young boys never changed after I discovered it when I was roughly 8 years old. Of course at the time it was boys my age. By the time I was 15 I realized the boys I liked were much younger than me, pretty much the same range that this kid finds himself attracted to. That hasn't changed in the next roughly 20 years. | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 19:49 | comment | added | Ender Wiggin | BTW make your son read this. Or read it with him: pedofieltweets.wordpress.com/2015/02/21/… | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 16:12 | comment | added | HopelessN00b | @EnderWiggin Not the first place in this thread I've seen the suggestion that he might grow out of it, but what do you base this on? Seems to me that teen boys grow into their sexuality, not out of it. | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 16:04 | comment | added | Ender Wiggin | @Raphael, Stephie is right. An 8 year old is 7 years younger than OP's son, not just 1 or 2, and pretty much half his age. And it's not just one "unfortunate crush", OP talks about him being sexually interested in boys as young as 8, in general. Not that he has a crush on one. He may very well grow to be attracted to boys his age as he continues to grow, but it is very likely that he is indeed a pedophile. OP should hope for the best, but plan for the worst, and start helping and supporting her son ASAP. It just dawned of me that I have been assuming OP is his mom, but it could be his dad. | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 15:39 | comment | added | HopelessN00b | Teach him better opsec? Assuming you don't want him in jail, of course, this is definitely not something he should be admitting to anyone, even people he trusts. | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 15:38 | comment | added | Raphael | @Stephie If the case is clear, I agree; and better safe than sorry, I guess. My concern was that a kid with a(n unfortunate) crush would get a label (the question as it is now does not seem to be clear to me in this regard; how much blank-filling on the grownup's part was involved?). | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 15:31 | comment | added | Stephie♦ | @Raphael: And OP's son needs help now, especially as he's at a vulnerable and formative age. | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 15:29 | comment | added | Stephie♦ | @Raphael : These anwers know the original post... And it's not only the original text but also the absolute age that warrants consideration as a 8yo. is prepubescent at best. For clarity: The term "paedophile" was removed on purpose, because there exists a media image that may lead uniformed readers to jump to premature conclusions about a subject that has many facets. | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 12:27 | comment | added | Raphael | That age difference will be completely okay in the future, and prefering boys is certainly not an issue (or so I hope). Since all the answers seem to jump to cry "pedophilia", I wonder; should you not observe for a few years and check whether his window of interest moves with his age? | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 11:41 | answer | added | Ender Wiggin | timeline score: 10 | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 8:16 | answer | added | anonymous | timeline score: -4 | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 6:45 | review | Suggested edits | |||
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| Feb 23, 2015 at 5:45 | answer | added | TryingToChange | timeline score: 6 | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 5:24 | history | edited | Jon Ericson | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
Make the title less provocative.
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| Feb 23, 2015 at 3:16 | answer | added | J.Todd | timeline score: 6 | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 1:18 | history | edited | user11394 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
Improved grammar
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| Feb 23, 2015 at 1:10 | comment | added | user11394 | I hesitate to link to a comedy site, but this recent article is very relevant, and serious enough for this question: cracked.com/… | |
| Feb 23, 2015 at 1:02 | answer | added | anongoodnurse | timeline score: 34 | |
| Feb 22, 2015 at 21:43 | answer | added | Stephie♦ | timeline score: 28 | |
| Feb 22, 2015 at 21:22 | comment | added | Ana | A good text to start from: medium.com/matter/… | |
| Feb 22, 2015 at 20:54 | answer | added | Anonymous | timeline score: 14 | |
| Feb 22, 2015 at 19:57 | review | First posts | |||
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| Feb 22, 2015 at 19:53 | history | asked | worried | CC BY-SA 3.0 |