Timeline for How do I address lack of tact in a 4 year old?
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| Sep 30, 2014 at 12:27 | vote | accept | CommunityBot | moved from User.Id=420 by developer User.Id=154 | |
| Sep 25, 2014 at 16:52 | comment | added | anongoodnurse | I think you miss my point to some degree. I would drop it completely. Is it kind? will cover whether to say it in front of another. | |
| Sep 25, 2014 at 13:06 | comment | added | Chrys | Most things adults say in private wouldn't pass the test, I agree. But most adults have learned not to say such things in front of the person in question which is what the OP is trying to teach. And yes, the child won't learn this instantly. Knowing this guideline can help a parent whose child is rebutting "but he does!" as though truth was the only guideline for speaking. Tact specifically refers to taking something other than the truth into account when choosing what to say. | |
| Sep 25, 2014 at 5:56 | comment | added | anongoodnurse | You are probably aware that most things adults say wouldn't pass this test. "Is it necessary?" is remarkably restrictive, and a child, esp. a 5 y.o., is not a good judge of "necessity" in speech. Many things are puzzling to him, including why people behave the way they do. All these are teachable moments. I guess parenting philosophy comes into some play here. | |
| Sep 24, 2014 at 14:09 | history | answered | Chrys | CC BY-SA 3.0 |