Timeline for How do I address a teacher humiliating my son by calling him a "tattletale"?
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| Jan 18, 2014 at 1:32 | comment | added | balanced mama | Totally agree with that - the only answers we can give are in generalities and it does make giving an clear and complete answer tough. | |
| Jan 18, 2014 at 1:08 | comment | added | Adam Davis | I don't disagree with you. A good teacher will support their students. Part of the problem with is that we don't have all the facts, just one third party story about an incident. There's no way to answer this question except in generalities. Perhaps what really happened is that this student shushed someone else, then another student asked the person next to him what the teacher just said that he couldn't hear due to he shushing, then this student shushed them, causing further problems, and the teacher said no tattling, which is inappropriate since it wasn't tattling. Everyone is wrong! | |
| Jan 17, 2014 at 23:45 | comment | added | balanced mama | I see a middle ground here. A student saying, "hey guys, I can't hear and need to" is something I would have overlooked when I was a teacher in terms of "breaking the rule" of no-talking. In a large classroom, the teacher can't always hear every whisper, but the kid next to the small group of whispering kids can hear such things and be distracted by it. It is called supporting self-advocacy. | |
| Jan 17, 2014 at 23:04 | comment | added | Adam Davis | @balancedmama If the teacher has given the students permission to shush each other, then it's appropriate for this student to do that. If the teacher isn't keeping control of the classroom enough to make sure every student understands, then there's a discussion to be had with the teacher about making sure all the students hear and understand. | |
| Jan 17, 2014 at 22:57 | comment | added | balanced mama | If the one student was distracted by the other kid's chatter enough to sush them on his own - they were hurting another student by taking away his right to learn what he can while being offered his education. He may need to learn how to "sush" in a way that is most likely to get him what he needs, rather than in a way that pushes the buttons of students (and, possibly teachers), but your claim that the teacher can access how destructive the behavior is, is inaccurate - every child needs to hear and see the instruction given and for some, a lot of side chatter makes that impossible. | |
| Jan 17, 2014 at 20:54 | history | answered | Adam Davis | CC BY-SA 3.0 |