RedSonja
  • Member for 7 years, 4 months
  • Last seen more than a month ago
  • South Germany
How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?
41 votes

About 25 years ago I was in the same place as you. So here are my observations: At 3 years old it's already too late for kindergarten to persuade your kid that their deity is more real than Santa. ...

View answer
Feeding a newborn throughout the night without letting him cry
19 votes

As a rule, plans made for parenting strategy last until about 5 minutes after birth. Don't worry. Your little tyke will let you know when it needs feeding, and your parental instincts will kick in. ...

View answer
My child witnessed a toddler being taught to cuss by older kids. How to deal with rude language at social gatherings?
14 votes

My oldest sister used to be a primary school teacher for very disadvantaged children in a very rough area. She saw it as part of her job to teach them to be - umm - less rough. So often these ...

View answer
How should a parent advise a child who wants to become a musician even though he is devoid of talent?
10 votes

Be glad your kid is enthusiastic about something which does not involve a computer monitor and beeping! I suffered greatly when my son learned drums, but it broke my heart when he gave everything up ...

View answer
How to get my younger sister to listen?
9 votes

When my kids went through this stage (they all do; you did as well, I expect) I had a good method. We did it together. "Now we'll all brush our teeth. Who wants green toothpaste?" "Time ...

View answer
Why is my child so scared of strangers? Is it nature or nurture?
6 votes

Where I come from people do not pick up kids*, or anybody at all, without asking. It is a horrible, menacing feeling. In fact, I am a small adult and when I was young it has happened that men would ...

View answer
How can we get our 5 year old to behave during eating, without us nagging all the time?
4 votes

Make eating with cutlery a privilege, not a duty. Don't give her any cutlery for a while, then give her sloppy food without a spoon (you can leave a spoon or fork lying around). Ask "are you big ...

View answer
Can a punishment be devoid of any "violence"?
4 votes

If restraining your child in any way counts as violence, then maybe. If your child is having a screaming fit you might have to pick it up against its will and tuck it under your arm and carry it off, ...

View answer
Playing with legos with a toddler around
3 votes

A friend of ours solved this by having a play pen, and putting the bigger kid in it. Of course he could climb out at any time, but in the pen his little brother couldn't get at his toys.

View answer
Should we get her a doll?
3 votes

Letting children play with dolls when they want to is not limiting their creativity, it allows them yet another dimension. My dolls were pirates and divers and firemen and spacemen... Another thing ...

View answer
How do I motivate my 8-year-old to practice the piano regularly?
3 votes

I motivated my daughter to practice clarinet by playing with her. We got some duets and played together. Even now (20 years later) when she comes home we'll go in the cellar and do those duets again, ...

View answer
Why is my daughter shouting so much?
2 votes

My answer works on excited adults too: speak very softly to her and she'll speak softly too. Kids learn by mimicry. As soon as she's old enough to understand you can add; "the people over there don'...

View answer
Should we get her a doll?
2 votes

Have you thought of making her a doll? Or helping her make her own? You can do wonders with a wooden spoon; paint a face on it, add a handkerchief and a rubber band and you've got a doll. Craft ...

View answer
How do I help my 3 year old daughter who is terrified of what I believe is a ghost?
1 votes

My niece had this when she was a baby. It was a monster in the room. So, I came back from Loch Ness with a little cloth monster, and my sister had the brilliant idea of keeping it under the bed. "...

View answer
How do you get your kids to do their chores at home?
1 votes

Children care deeply about fairness. They resent having to do tasks if they think the others are getting away with doing less. We made a rota for all shared tasks. Everyone had a coloured dot and ...

View answer
Learning to play an instrument: Should we insist that our child practices each day?
1 votes

Do you play as well? My dad made me learn violin as a surrogate for him never having done it. I hated it and gave it up at 18 and didn't play another note until... ...when my kids reached primary ...

View answer
Should I expect my 20 year old son to get a job while at University?
1 votes

Since you seem to be well off (by British standards) you could do an attic conversion or similar and make a self-contained flat for him. Then he would have to start looking after himself. You could ...

View answer
How much should you buy for your child to keep up with their peers?
1 votes

In the delivery room where I had my babies, there was a sign; "You don't need to rear kids, they just copy everything you do." (Without making a judgement on this) if you are the sort of person to ...

View answer