cabbey
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How do you cope in the first few months?
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Our first couple months were... bad. From that experience I can give you these pieces of advice: Realize that you are most likely not in this alone. Friends and family are a wonderful thing. ...

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How do you handle grandparents who spoil your children?
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The best solution we've found yet is that the grands and great grands aren't allowed to skip the consequences either. No bungee-cord (grand)parenting allowed. "If grandma and grandpa want to give you ...

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How can I safely keep a pacifier in a 2-month-old's mouth?
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25 votes

Seems unsafe to even try anything like that. I recall our hospital had a whole bunch of things they said not to do with pacifiers that pretty much all revolved around the notion of "don't do like your ...

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Should I monitor my child's internet usage?
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Do you monitor the books they read from the library? Do you monitor the music they listen to on the radio? Do you monitor the TV and Movies they watch? Do you monitor what they say and hear from their ...

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What are the pros and cons of using a nanny-cam?
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The biggest problem we have with our baby monitor camera is coverage, even placed in the corner of the room and way up to get a good vantage of the room, you'd have to have 3 or 4 of the darn things ...

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What to do when toddler keeps using the potty to stay awake at bedtime?
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"Ok, one more trip and then straight to bed." worked well for us... not only with the potty but also with "I'm thirsty" and "I need to give mommy a kiss good night" and ... all his other stalling ...

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What should you do after you've raised your voice at your child?
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So far, with my 3.5 year old, I've attempted to complete that apology with an explanation of why I lost my temper with him. Like "when I tell you not to play with that, it's because I don't want you ...

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How do I teach my child to speak in sentences?
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The big thing we do is be sure to model proper, age appropriate, sentences around our son. So for example at dinner instead of saying "would you hand me the peas, honey?" my wife would catch our son's ...

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How can I get my 4.5-year-old to stay in bed at bedtime?
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The single best solution we've found so far with our 3.5 year old is two fold: no more afternoon naps, or at least cut them down shorter. If it's taking 2 hours for him to get to sleep after bed time,...

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How do you wash a toddler's hands in a public restroom?
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The approach I use with my son is to lift my leg up and put my knee against the counter, then set him on my thigh (with a leg on both side). This way he can get to the sink without getting too close ...

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My kids are asking for Angry Birds Knock On Wood for the holidays, is it safe?
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It's actually not nearly as unsafe as it seems. For one thing the birds are soft rubber squeeze toys. I've been hit in the head with them and it barely stings. The catapult for launching them is ...

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What should I teach my teenager about condoms?
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One item everyone seems to forget to cover, is how to take one OFF without making a huge mess. And to wash hands before applying a new one after removing a used one for those back to back sessions we ...

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Are outlet covers needed with tamper resistant electrical receptacles?
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8 votes

No. In fact the packaging on my tamper resistant outlets specifically say NOT to use them.

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At what age should infants have playdates?
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7 votes

At 4 months they're not going to get much out of parallel play yet. But there is an important thing YOU can get out of it... talk time with another adult. There's a reason they're called "play*dates*"...

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Why did these two pre-schoolers swap their tantrum behaviour?
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Wild guess: The older one saw how the tantrums got attention from the adults, wanted it himself and learned to do it from the younger one. I've been amazed at the behaviors my son has brought home ...

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What is the best approach to cut the hair of an infant/toddler?
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I think our best improvement in the process is to have both parents involved. Our son usually sits on mom's lap while I do the cutting. This keeps him engaging with mom and he hardly notices the ...

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How can I brush my toddler's teeth when he won't let me?
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We got the MOST effective improvement in our son's brushing habits by moving away from the "kids tooth paste" in bubble-gum-tooti-fruiti-cherry-so-sweet-you-wanna-puke flavor to just plain old non-...

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How do you choose a first pediatrician?
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"It depends", on a lot of different factors. I hate to suggest something as negative sounding as "trial and error", but well, that seems to be the best way. To get through med school, and then go back ...

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Do you use number of weeks or day of the month to determine an infant's birthday?
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Being an engineer who works on things like recurring payments, I tend to over-engineer the answer for my wife's liking. A month it turns out is really really close to 30.5 days. So I tend to use that. ...

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Should we freeze some breastmilk for later use even if there's no excess supply?
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I don't know about better or not, but I can say from experience that after several months of nothing but the real thing, my son would NEVER drink a bottle of pure formula, adding just an ounce of ...

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How can I help a child who won't talk to anybody at school? Selective mutism
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Our 3.5 year old had exactly the same pattern recently develop. All of a sudden at day care he wouldn't say a word to anyone, but at pre-school, at play group, here at home, basically everywhere else ...

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How do you convince your son to poop in the toilet?
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Byrne Reese has a great answer, I just want to add a couple points to it: On the privacy vs safety point: instead of leaving the room, we just sit on the edge of the bathtub about 4 or 5 feet away ...

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What is the best way to calmly respond to a pre-schooler who will not listen?
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When you say "explaining"... are you 100% positive he's paying attention? With my 3.5yo it makes a world of difference to walk across the room, pick him up and look him in the eye, nose to nose and ...

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How long should I wait before I permit my children to have access to caffeine?
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This may sound odd, but I think I'm going to treat it like alcohol with our son. My wife and I both gave up caffeine when we first decided to have kids... honestly, I don't miss it and I feel a ...

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How do you deal with a 9 year old not doing their homework?
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Based on your answer to the question I asked above, I suggest speeding up the fun stuff going away then, at least until homework is done. My parents did that to me at about 4th grade or so (when I hit ...

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Why is my daughter pulling at her ear when she is eating?
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Our son did that some times at around that age... the key observation was that when he was doing it during nursing, his ear was at the same level as his mouth or below it. The theory was that he was ...

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At what age can/should a child be able to clean themselves after bowel movements?
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I posted the link to this question on facebook/twitter/G+ hoping some folks would come back here and answer the question. Several answered THERE instead, the best answer I think came from my mother, ...

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How can I help my pre-schooler be more confident and assertive when other children are taking toys away from her?
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Does she have the mental tools needed to express that she didn't want to give the toy up? (let's assume for the minute she didn't want to give it up.) It might be as simple as showing her how to stand ...

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Looking for a daily/weekly chart that awards a child's behavior and Chore completion
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One thing to keep in mind, to work, your child needs to understand it. You didn't mention the age(s) you're dealing with so it's hard to say if that's overkill or not. (though to be honest, I'm ...

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What are allergy-friendly alternatives to peanut butter?
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Humous makes for an awesome sandwich spread. If he likes veggies you can make all sorts of interesting combos... humous and sprouts, humous and zucchini slices, etc. Try also with raisins or crasins (...

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