magerber
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Wife agrees with parenting, but is intentionally less strict
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I agree that this couple could probably benefit from some couples counseling. Mom is putting an unfair burden on dad and it may take some support from an outside party to help both parents understand ...

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7 year old threw her iPad in anger and it smashed
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I found with my kids that it was much more effective for me to let them experience the natural negative consequences of their behavior than it was for me to tell them about the consequences. So, in ...

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How to help my antagonistic 10-year-old learn necessary skills when he doesn't want to participate in any classes?
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Everyone learns in their own way. I love going to classes/seminars/workshops, but for a while I dated a guy who couldn't understand why I would do that, as he learned best on his own, reading through ...

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How to deal with over-inflated ego in teen
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The behaviors you describe sound really typical of a teenager, particularly one who was already struggling with self-esteem issues. I think all teenagers go through a period of time when they try and ...

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How to answer my 4-year-old asking where she was when I was small and how she got in my tummy?
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When you talk about your child not understanding where they were when you were little, the thing that I immediately thought about was Piaget's experiments with children and when they can begin ...

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Am I being stressful to my child by trying to teach them how to be creative?
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I can't site any studies or anything, but this is an extremely familiar situation for me, and I thought I would share my experience in case it helps you. My older son was (and still is) a rule-...

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Is my 4-year-old too dependent on over-the-counter medication?
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I think that @threetimes is definitely on the right track here, but I wanted to add something else as well. I have a distinct memory as a kid of taking medicine for something and then being very ...

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My younger brother doesn't want to do anything or leave his room
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This may be completely obvious (you yourself mention depression in your question), but the behaviors that you are listing are all common signs of clinical depression. The best description I ever read ...

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Is it worth my child continuing kumon maths if they don't like it?
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When they were quite young, I signed my kids up for some sort of tutoring service (I thought it was Kumon, but it was in a separate retail space facility, not at home, so I might be misremembering the ...

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Helping a child who's still developing language skills to understand she's being given a chance to make a decision
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When my older son was about a year and a half, one of his daycare teachers shared an experience they had that day. Owen spent a good 5 minutes pacing across the front of the classroom, with a look of ...

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How to handle my little brother's addiction to videogames?
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I think your best option is to try and develop a relationship as your brother's ally in this situation. You can talk to your father about implementing consequences and what type of consequences ...

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Is there any reason to change diapers even if there's nothing in them?
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I agree with others--I am not aware of any reason to change a dry diaper, and guess that it may be a "better safe than sorry" policy at your company. However, I also worked as a caregiver in a ...

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How is my relationship with the siblings of my kid with special medical needs?
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I think that children in general begin to understand that the expectations are different depending on who they are with. I wouldn't worry too much about them lacking independence because their ...

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Is it ok to stop breast milk at 7.5 month?
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I really think you are overthinking this. There are millions of people who have grown up healthy without ever having a drop of breast milk. Because of medical issues, my first son did not breastfeed ...

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How do I teach my 7 year old son to share things?
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As I believe I posted elsewhere on this site--I believe my kids learned generosity and to share easily precisely because they were not asked to share too early. A quick anecdote: My brother and sister-...

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How can I help my parents?
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I think you need to consider what role you want to take here. In no way do I want to suggest that your desire to help your parents with this is misguided--it is, in fact, a salute to you that you are ...

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Effective ways of learning nutritious foods, nutrition and balanced diet
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I basically told my kids that there were certain types of foods that gave their bodies things that their bodies needed to grow strong and to play. There were other types of foods that taste great, but ...

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Almost 4-year-old still refusing to poop in the potty
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Not a completely new answer, but too long for a comment: Please don't underestimate how much having a 5 week old is making all of this feel so much more difficult. Maybe you should just put your ...

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How to get my 5-year-old to stop whining and crying about everything?
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I had the best results weaning my kids off of whining when I began to understand when the whining happened, and why. Five year olds are tricky beings because they are at a phase where they are ...

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How to deal with my 8-year-old son's behavioural problems at school and at home?
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Have you asked him what is different between this year and last year? I think the comments above about having him checked physically are absolutely right on, but the fact that he had trouble two ...

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How to foster t-ball enthusiasm in a five year old
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When I first read the title of this post, my immediate thought was "You can't. T-ball is boring!" When studying early childhood education, there is an emphasis on understanding the attention span ...

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What else can I teach a 2.5 yo child related to reading, pattern recognition, and memory?
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I am sure that there is a lot of scientific research out there on pre-reading skills, but I want to share a personal story about my son that illustrates what I believe might be a good direction for ...

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Making reading books the only option on long car commutes a bad idea?
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I am a voracious and early reader as is my children's father. I, like you, really wanted my children to learn to enjoy books the way I always had. I live in Los Angeles, which means that my life is ...

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1 month old baby screaming in pain but not sure how to alleviate
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EDITED TO ADD: As discussed in the comments above, the most important first step is to go back to the doctor and have her recheck your baby. It is pretty easy to assume that a new parent is overly ...

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How can I be more sympathetic towards my children when they are injured?
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I scanned the other answers, and a few of them touch on this, but I am posting because I want to offer you slightly different advice. I feel it is important to acknowledge your child's experience as ...

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Can I give my baby a bottle of breastmilk straight from the fridge?
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I can't provide any supporting evidence, but I can tell you that at my very first pediatrician appointment with my first son, I had this exact conversation with my pediatrician. I live in Southern ...

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How to make sure my dog and daughter have a safe relationship
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You have a number of really insightful and helpful answers, but they all seem to miss the one thing that I always did with any children that weren't used to interacting with animals. Show them what ...

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