HedgeMage
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How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?
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188 votes

I think there are two problems here: Your child is friends with a kid who has learned some maladaptive behaviors/ideas and is passing them on to your child. You and your wife are apparently unaware ...

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How do you teach a child religious views?
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65 votes

I agree with Tim H insofar as requiring a child to pray when he is too young to have any idea what he's doing, besides folding his hands and repeating after you, is pointless. As to the second part ...

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Should the nanny quit when the parents don't care about their dangerous children?
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Leave. Leave now. There's clearly something seriously wrong. Whether it's bad parenting, a psychological disorder, or something else entirely, it is beyond your control and you are liable for the ...

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What age is it appropriate to start martial arts?
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40 votes

The appropriate age depends a great deal on the specific style/art in question, the type of dojo, and the particular child. Most Karate dojos I know take kids starting around age 4-6. Most Krav Maga ...

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Is punishment necessary?
40 votes

In my years working with kids (volunteering at a couple of schools, helping to run a drug abuse prevention program, running an extracurricular program) I've met many parents who tried the no-...

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Is baby talk helpful or detrimental?
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Baby talk, when used correctly is beneficial to speech development. For infants not yet using speech at all, use exaggerated changes in pitch and tone to help them learn the rhythm of speech and the ...

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How do you stop a child from talking back without discouraging them from asserting themselves?
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35 votes

First of all -- now that you know the bullying is going on it should be eliminated, period. Most 3.5yo kids don't yet have the nuance to understand the difference between standing up for oneself and ...

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At what age should siblings stop sharing their bedroom?
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Having one's own room can be nice, but it's never a necessity. It's only in the last generation or two that it became common to give children separate bedrooms instead of just having a boys' room and ...

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How to respond if my child is picked on by other children?
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31 votes

Teach your child not to be an easy target. Bullies go for easy prey, someone with confident body language, who can tell the bully to "knock it off" in a firm voice, etc. is a less likely target. ...

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How can I teach a teenager to plan better and procrastinate less in his studies?
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Gifted kids have problems with approaching work in a disciplined manner because they don't experience a benefit in doing so. If you give a "normal" kid a "normal" math test, their level of ...

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Should we discourage our toddler from taking sippy cups to bed?
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Our dentist made sure to ask, at my child's first visit, whether we let him go to bed with milk or a bottle/sippy cup. He said that he deals with a lot of kids who have rotting teeth due to milk ...

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Why would a primary-schooler want to kill himself?
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20 votes

It is concerning that he said that, but it may or may not actually mean that he's depressed, let alone suicidal. It's safe to assume that your nephew is really bothered by something. How bothered ...

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How do you address sibling rivalry?
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20 votes

If things are escalating to the point of physical altercation, you've already waited too long to intervene. Model good behavior. Avoid using harsh words with your family, even in jest. Make house ...

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When should I transition a 2 year old toddler from the cot to a bed?
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Kids vary. Some take to the bed without any real difference from how they went to sleep in the crib, and others are all "oooh, freedom!" and getting up every ten seconds for a cuddle or a drink or to ...

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How does one formally educate a gifted child without wrecking childhood?
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I was a "gifted" kid growing up in a place where there wasn't much for me. I made it my mission for awhile after that to learn as much about gifted education as I could. There's only so much that ...

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How can firearms be secured from children?
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19 votes

For babies and toddlers, setting it on a high shelf should be sufficient. Also, choosing a pistol with a grip safety is a great move -- little hands simply don't have the span to hold it down ...

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Does using sign language really accelerate a child's ability to speak?
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There's been no research that I know of connecting early sign language learning to speaking sooner or better in general. However, learning sign language can make a huge difference in diagnosing ...

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How can we teach a toddler to use first person and second person point of view in speech?
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First of all, don't worry too much. Many 2yos have trouble getting pronouns right with regard to person (1st, 2nd, 3rd). The way you're trying to teach person pronouns is suboptimal because if your ...

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How should I handle my foster son saying he's not my 'real' kid?
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Don't worry about it. That's a really common behavior with foster kids. Here are a few of the many reasons why: Foster kids aren't always sure where they stand with foster families. He may simply ...

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How can a young child be taught not to bully?
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When you are talking about babies and toddlers, bullying is a lot simpler than it can be with older children. At this age, it's pretty much one of three scenarios: Someone taught the child bullying ...

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How should a child respond to peers who ask about their adoption?
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I think that treating adoption like a "special" topic not treated by the same social rules as others may be a bad move. My son knows that if someone asks a question he isn't comfortable with, about ...

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How can I get my 5-year-old to stop biting others?
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17 votes

I'll give a go at a generic answer here, though I hope the querant will revise the question with more specifics so that I can, in turn, offer a more direct answer. Kids that age may bite for a number ...

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Why won't our infant stop crying when in the car seat?
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Many people get motion sick when moving backwards for any length of time. I suspect that this might be the case for your daughter because her older sister did better once she was front-facing. If ...

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Is teeth grinding bad for my child?
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Here's what my son's dentist told me: Bruxism (teeth grinding, also a great Scrabble word) is very common in children, and nothing to worry about unless it continues after adult molars start coming ...

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How do you handle grandparents who spoil your children?
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Find a balance... It's all right to have a few special privileges that only apply at Grandma's house. That's a grandma's prerogative. Being allowed to get away with bad behavior, eating only junk ...

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How do we handle one parent frequently being out-of-town for weeks at a time?
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As a former military wife, I had to work through this stuff with my son, too. The most important things you can do are to help them understand what's going on, provide a connection to Daddy when he's ...

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How can an older brother fill the parenting void of an absent father?
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How old are you and your sisters? What was your relationship with them like before you moved back in? How is your mom handling all this? Some general truths: Unless the age gap is big enough that ...

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At what age should a child be able to dress herself?
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Kids are all different. I'd be surprised if a 2yo were completely dressing/undressing him/her-self all the time. I'd be surprised if a 6yo were not doing so. If you want to encourage self-dressing, ...

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What type of tracking technology is practical for young children?
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Someone with malicious intent will remove/destroy/jam the device. Someone with good intent will make sure it is working properly. Thus, doing something like that gives bad guys the ability to track ...

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Are same-gender classrooms better for girls, or mixed-gender classrooms better for boys?
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The answer depends a lot on the culture the children are raised in. For example, when working with children raised in a culture where strict gender roles are the norm, and boys and girls aren't ...

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