Valkyrie
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Just found out my daughter might be gay. Now what?
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First, ask yourself honestly: would you react the same way if it were a friend of the opposite gender? Or is part of your reaction based on gender and gender preference? If it is, step away from ...

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My 4 year-old says she doesn't love her mom
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I think your instincts of jealousy are spot-on. My daughter did this starting when her little brother arrived home from the hospital, and every time she felt like he was getting more of Mama's ...

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The school has assigned reading I feel is inappropriate for my son to read. How do I approach this problem with the school and with my son?
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Since you're not thrilled about the depiction of violence in the book, but are reluctant to have your child singled out as different, maybe you could read it with him and discuss the violence and ...

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Should you let a toddler win?
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Just anecdata: we did this with our daughter (now 4.5), mostly because playing games about math was fun for all. We thought it would make it more fun for her, and get her more involved, if she won. ...

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How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says "why?"?
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I usually respond to endless 'why's with questions that focus on critical thinking. "Do you want french toast or pancakes for breakfast?" "Why?" "Well, which do you think would make your tummy ...

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Does good cop/bad cop work with children?
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Research indicates (see below for some links) that kids actually thrive when the parents present a united front on discipline. She'll try to test you, to see if she can play one against the other, ...

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Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an "open" relationship. Huh? Now what?
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Oh, the pain of first heartbreak! Bless you for being there for your daughter through all of this. The maturity level between 13 and 17 is so vast and I'm very glad the other girl agreed to back off ...

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How can a dad be both a mother and father
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Mothers do what fathers do: love their children unconditionally and raise them to be independent, happy contributing members of society. My husband and I have different approaches towards the kids, ...

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Does a baby cry inside the womb?
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You need air to pass over your vocal cords for vocalizations like an infants cry to start. However, it has been observed that fetuses in the womb will make crying-like movements with their mouths, so ...

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How can I tell if my toddler is truly gifted or just bright?
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(I'm going to focus on how to help her, rather than determining if she's gifted according to an external set of criteria.) Whether your daughter is considered "gifted" according to the person/...

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How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents
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When all else fails, they can fall back on a version of Miss Manner's timeless response, "I'm sorry, that's just not possible." In this case, something along the lines of "I'm sorry, I don't want to ...

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When to teach children to use search engines?
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One of our jobs as parents is teaching; using the internet to help with this task is fine, but before you do, teach them how to be safe when they're online. Teach your kids about online safety (...

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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?
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Stephen King wrote a description about this once. "You're one of those people that, when King Laugh knocks, you can't keep the door closed." I'm the same way: laughter overwhelms me at sometimes very ...

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My toddler has dandruff in her hair, and we've found tiny insects on her scalp
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There are several ways you can tackle this: There are over-the-counter treatments for head lice that you can get at most local pharmacies and grocery stores. You can also get a lice comb and pick ...

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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed
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Oh wow, what a lousy situation for all of you! It depends on where you live, but one resource I'd suggest is whatever social services you have available. She could probably use the services of a ...

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Preventing anti-STEM bias especially with girls
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First, good on you guys for recognizing this and addressing it both with your daughter and the group that held the event. It's not always easy to speak up in a group setting when this happens RIGHT ...

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Classmates choosing soccer tournament over my sons birthday party
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If you DO make an issue out of it, what will be the result? Will the other 10 families start to consider everyone else in their priorities and scheduling, or will they apologize and keep right on ...

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How do I handle an absentee parent wanting to build a relationship later in life?
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You are not required to have a relationship with anyone you don't want to. Full stop. You've made it through some rough times by working hard; you're allowed to feel what you feel towards this ...

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Are "pull-ups" worthwhile?
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I hate to say this (and I SWEAR it's not a pun) but it depends. For our daughter, pull-ups were more of a hassle than they were worth. She treated them like a diaper and was not interested in going ...

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How can I help my daughter's depression?
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Your daughter is in pain and is expressing that pain the best she can, but usually that's not enough. Sexual assault has psychological repercussions that can last much, much longer than the physical ...

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Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
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Three ideas (one you might not like, but if it works...): Make sure he goes to the bathroom just before bed. Did wonders for our daughter. Try some higher-absorbency pullups. Since he's almost 6, ...

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My eldest is aware of "an f-word" but doesn't know what it is, should I tell him?
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You know your kid best. I personally vote for trust every time, because it was a big deal to ME when I was a kid when my parents trusted me enough to confide something like this in me. "I know you are ...

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Grandparent put a diaper on my toilet trained child
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Potty training is so fun with kids. It's one step forward, two steps back, three steps forward, a shuffle to the side... In short, this sounds like one of the usual stops along the route towards full ...

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3 year old tantrums in public
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Ahhh, I just LOVE people who correct other parents in public. You weren't endangering him; you were right there, waiting out the tantrum. IMHO those women had no business stepping in unless you ...

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How can we counter cultural gender stereotypes?
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Telling him is one thing, showing him is another. He's very likely picking up this "information" from TV and other kids, but if he sees in his every day life that Mom likes the color green best, and ...

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3 year-old boy wants constant attention, hits and deliberately poops in underpants when he doesn't get it
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Some ideas: Hunger/thirst: My cranky small humans get crankier when they're hungry or thirsty, and if I can see the clouds gathering, I can often head off the storm by offering a snack or a drink. ...

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Our babygirl doesn't say mommy
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The saying I heard since I was a child was "walking by one, talking by two." She'll get there! My son called me 'ball' for quite a while after he could say 'Daddy,' but who gets the lion's share of ...

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How to brush the teeth of my 1-year-old baby?
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Our dentist recommends that brushing starts as soon as solid food is introduced. There are two types of baby toothbrushes: those that you slip over a finger (better for when they don't have teeth, '...

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How to talk with your teenage son when he caught you having sex with your partner?
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I'd let him bring it up. I walked in on my parents in flagrante delicto when I was 8, and RAN out of the room and hid in the office for a while. My dad, bless his heart, came to find me and assure ...

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How to deal with a 4 year old child who doesn't like parting with his friends?
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Is there any way to give him some control over the leave-taking? I'm thinking of something like what we do with daycare and night-times (kids push us out of the room), that he could do when it's time ...

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