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How do I explain to a 4 year old that our family pet is sick and needs to be put down?
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I would definitely tell him in advance, to give him a chance to process the fact in time, and to say goodbye to the cat. Morah made a good point about leaving the sickness out of the explanation, ...

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Teaching a (almost) 3 year old she can fall asleep on her own
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Is it possible that she is afraid? This is the age when children usually start to be afraid of things, and especially of darkness. Ours did too, although it was not so problematic as your case. So try ...

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How can I help my child learn to learn better?
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As Erin's answer mentioned, there are different types of learners, with different strengths. It was focused on the book-based learning - I will try to give a broader perspective. Hope you will find ...

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How do you get a child to eat?
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Infants are much more instinctive than us adults. They eat when their body needs food (although it takes time for them to learn to consciously interpret their body's signals). As opposed to us who ...

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Is this considered child abuse
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Saying I need pampers makes me look bad in public. Fighting with your brother in public and throwing ketchup around made her look bad in public - have you considered that? For the record, my brother ...

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What to do when parents disagree regarding their parenting
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Let me chime in from the male side :-) My wife and I too have disagreements over various topics of child rearing. One of them actually is bedtime. I am more lenient on this, she is more watching the ...

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When can children understand the concept of lying?
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A few additional thoughts to @monsto's answer: Roughly till the age of 7 (+-3), children live in a magical world, which is very different from how we adults experience (or seem to experience) things. ...

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Should you talk your toddler only in one language when you are multilingual yourself?
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I think the point of the one language per person rule is to make the child learn to be consistent with the languages in question. (S)he needs to learn properly to use each language exclusively when ...

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What is effect of giving sugar to an infant?
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Evolutionary conditioning for sweet tooth Evolutionarily, indeed sweet foods have offered an advantage to their consumers: lots of calories. Almost all of us - not just infants, but most adults, in ...

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Recommendations on helping my left-handed preschooler when my husband and I are right-handed
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At this age, you need not focus on "the right way" of holding a pencil, and fine-motor skills yet. It is recommended to buy big pencils/pens which he can hold more easily. Making him use too small and ...

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When is the right age to bring my child to a Disney theme park?
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We haven't been to a Disney park, but we have experienced the Moomin World (in Finland) with our girls first time when they were 5.5 and 4, and it worked out perfectly. We could see they had a magical ...

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How do you teach children "Humility"?
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IMHO this is one of the things you can't teach to your children - you can only live it. You are a role model for your kids (up to a certain age). If you are genuinely humble, they will internalize ...

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How should I react if another child "attacks" my son by doing something he does not like (but not especially dangerous)
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I gave some thoughts in my answer to your related question. I would also like to react to your comment to Rory: what do I advise my son to do in such a situation. He currently tends to running away ...

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At what age or developmental milestones is it safe to leave children unattended?
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Our daughters are 7 and 5,5. Both have already been left home alone a couple of times for ~10 minutes at most, and survived :-) We usually make sure they are engaged in watching some cartoon DVD or ...

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How to simultaneously spoon feed twins?
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With twins, it's going to be chaotic sometimes. Don't worry too much and go with the flow. Try and see what works (the next day it may be all different :-) It really depends on their personalities - ...

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How do you investigate what's going on in the pre-kindergarten classroom?
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Hmmm, tough one. It is difficult to arrive to any well founded conclusions without a lot more research and evidence. And I must note for start, that it is possible to keep control of 20 or even more ...

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Should toddlers have learning goals?
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The centre has a learning framework for the early years and has asked us what our learning objectives and goals were for our children. The framework lays out goal areas such as developing a sense of ...

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How to deal with others' children who do not respect my authority?
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My understanding and feeling is that These children are not intentionally wild or disobedient to be "bad" - they usually crave something: attention, time, love, clear guidance/rules from others. ...

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How do we raise our child with three languages?
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Our thought so far is to speak English when we are all together, Swedish between me and the baby, Italian between my wife and the baby. That's the way recommended by all sources I know of. I.e. be ...

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Fostering a relationship with a relative your child doesn't like
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A lot depends on the details. Who is the relative, what is his/her relationship with the parents and/or other family members? Some families may have hidden, suppressed - or even open - tensions or ...

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Infant and noise from fireworks
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When (if) she wakes up to the noise, be there, be calm (or joyful if you like), demonstrating her that there is nothing to be afraid of. Take her into your arms if she is frightened. Admire the ...

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My 4-year-old is wetting the bed a year after finishing potty training
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It is certainly not a willful behaviour at this age, especially in the middle of the night. So it won't help to explain your expectations, it will just frustrate her more. Was there any substantial ...

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What are the health benefits of giving children vitamins?
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My personal conclusion from own research (I mean googling, discussions, own experiences etc. not a strictly scientific approach :-) is that it is preferable to take vitamins, minerals etc. from ...

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Will it confuse my son if I try to teach him 3 languages, two of which are very close to each other (Russian and Ukrainian)?
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I was thinking of using one parent - one language method (or in my case mom - two languages and dad - one language). But I was going to switch languages (Russian and Ukrainian) every other day. My ...

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How can we improve a trilingual toddler's basic language development?
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I think your child is firmly within the normal range of deviation. And don't forget that all these claims stating that "children start to do X at the age of N" are only about the average, with a huge ...

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How to improve the introduction of solid food?
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We aren't sure if this is because she does not like the taste or if she isn't ready for spoon feeding. Try different foods (other grains, veggies, fruits) to find out. Even though they are twins, ...

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How do we prepare for a long car journey with a 2-month-old?
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We did a long car journey (4 days with overnight stops, then 3 days on the way back) with our firstborn when she was 5 months old. One of us sat at the back to entertain her, equipped with the usual ...

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At what age can/should a child be able to clean themselves after bowel movements?
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As an addition to what already has been mentioned in other answers, there is a definite physical factor in play here too. Infants' arms simply are too short compared to their torso to reach down there ...

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How can I stop repeating myself?
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Yes, it is frustrating indeed. Our children are 7 and 5,5, so we have had to live with this for years now. I found the 1-2-3 Magic technique useful in that at least eventually they are forced to take ...

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Is it safe to engage in sports while pregnant?
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If she has no special health issues, her pregnancy is OK, she is in good condition and has been doing more or less regular physical activity up to now, then why not, as long as she feels OK with it. ...

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