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How to explain Paris terrorist attack to primary school age children?
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I've got a hard time explaining the motives of the terrorists. I don't know whether this is the best article on the subject (it's near the top of this Google search) but for example What Motivates ...

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Should I punish my teenage sister, whom I have full custody of, for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend?
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Should I punish my kid for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend? I suggest "no". Instead, consider feeling remorseful that she wanted to (or 'felt the need to') lie, and reconsider your ...

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What can I tell and what can I ask of a 2nd grade teacher, about my child's health?
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What is okay to ask of from my child's teacher regarding his physical health? It's often not OK to ask the school to give medicine or other medical care (or it may be OK but only if you give them the ...

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My 21-year-old adult son hates me
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This seems to me analogous to living with an alcoholic: you go along with their behaviour, and eventually you're living in a situation with someone else's 'rules'. "... be prepared for his rage; he ...

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What age limit is appropriate for using tools (such as screwdrivers, hacksaw, drill, etc.)?
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I was taught to use wood-working tools (hammer, screw-driver, hand plane, hand-saw, hand-held electric circular saw, electric drill, sand paper, paint, also sewing needle) at home when I was a child. ...

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How can we 'gracefully' stop taking our 5yo for a late-night toilet visit every night?
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I don't know if this helps or is relevant, but I sometimes drink because I cycle -- some days I arrive home, and most of my skin is coated with salt, as well as wet (from sweating). IMO I retain or ...

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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?
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I read (or was given to read) all kinds of things when I was young: Aesop's Fables, for example, fairy tales and children's stories, the Mowgli stories, and who knows what. I guess I got used to ...

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My 3 year old daughter thinks she is white. Should I tell her she's not?
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I think 3 is a good age to be deciding which things are like each other (a.k.a. object pairing). I think that "diversity" probably implies that everyone is different, too, as well as being the same. ...

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Grandparents want our three year old daughter to throw tantrums like her cousin did
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When my wife taught pre-school it was key that some parents, who dropped off their kids, should do so and then leave, promptly: she had children who would cry for as long as their parents were hanging ...

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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket
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Teach her to use a firearm. There's a way you're taught, a long series of rules and rituals, for doing it safely: i.e. for doing that and avoid the possibility of killing someone. IMO something about ...

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How to explain the concept of past / future to a kid?
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I think "tomorrow" is related to names of days of the week (Monday, Tuesday, etc.), and a calendar. My parents keep a (paper) calendar in the kitchen, I can see the days being crossed off one by one, ...

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How can I overcome my two-year-old's fear of failure?
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I'm told it's good to encourage effort, not success. Scenario: Children are given a task. Afterwards they're praised, one group praised for how diligent their effort was, the other group praised for ...

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How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly
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I was able to try to answer this question, My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket, because I have some idea why compliance with that law is important, consequential ... to be taken seriously. ...

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How can I begin exposing my children to world news?
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I was brought up on newsprint (i.e. my father would read the paper), and prefer text even now. For a start I read faster than people talk. For example I can read a transcript of an hour-long ...

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