morah hochman
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Reasoning vs "because I say so"
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I teach my children when they ask Why about an instruction, that I will explain why AFTER they follow the instructions, in this way they learn to follow the instruction and get to know why.

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Why does my toddler want to take her clothes off?
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19 votes

Being naked is fun...for children. It can be very freeing. However, I understand your concern. I think most children go through some period of this desire (my children often want to sleep naked). ...

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How do you investigate what's going on in the pre-kindergarten classroom?
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17 votes

I definitely agree that research is needed. First, speak to the teacher. Talk to her about her teaching style, but at this point in the year it is a bit late, so maybe speak to her about why SHE ...

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Encouraging my 2-year-old to play independently
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When you play with him at home, say to him, I can play with you for 10 minutes, but then I have to run to put dinner in the oven and will be right back. At the end of 10 minutes, say I am going to ...

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How do I explain good sportsmanship to a 4 year old?
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It sounds like you already do this, but don't 'let' him win just to avoid the scene, this will create bigger problems later. As you are playing the game (I assume most of the games, if not all, are ...

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How can we avoid tantrums over sweets and cakes?
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14 votes

NEVER give in. Put him in another room (no one wants to be around tantrums, and tell him so) and wait it out. He may cry for a pretty long time the first couple of times but when he realizes it gets ...

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Can a toddler spend too much time with books?
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We had the exact same problem and not only was she not playing enough (in our minds) but we were going crazy reading all the time. We finally put a three book limit per sitting. She brought us books ...

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Breaking my rejection of christianity to my parents
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Parents have a hard time when their adult children have a different way of life then they have. Often parents feel it a rejection of their parenting. This being said, you asked about how to discuss ...

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Are prenatal classes worth it?
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Yes. Even if you meet no one (we didn't). Even if you know everything they say (you won't). We found the hospital tour itself is worth it (that was part of our class). Also while I didn't find it ...

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11-month old daughter suddenly refusing to eat lunch/dinner
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12 votes

Don't worry, children will not starve! Unless other wise directed by your doctor due to a medical condition, don't fight over food. If she doesn't want to eat she won't. I do not recommend giving ...

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Any suggestions on how to control yelling and negativity on our part, and also teach my 8 yr old son to not feel so helpless and cry so easily?
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First of all, the old and famous counting to 10 will probably help you control your temper. Or try saying, mommy needs a time out right now we will get back to this in a few minutes and leave the ...

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How to promote individual play for a toddler?
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Okay, a few pieces of advice. Can your son help you with the baby in any way? If you are bottle feeding can he help with that? If you are nursing can he bring you anything? Can he sing to the baby ...

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How to stop my 8 year old from crying every time she's frustrated?
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11 votes

Major peer pressure starts around 8 years old. It is possible that she is asking for things that she feels she 'needs' to get along with her peers. Talk about this with her (talk to the teacher ...

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Sex play in young children
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I have been in a simular situation with my daughter and a female friend when they were 5 and 4. The friend wanted to see what could fit into my daughter. I am also not in a situation to keep them ...

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How to encourage a 4 month old to swim
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10 votes

Hold her knees and kick for her. But... She is swimming. She is 4 months old, enjoying the water is the most important thing at this age!

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Should I be concerned about my 12-month-old not understanding what we say?
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The best advice is to ask your pediatrician. As well, at least around here, there is a program run by the city called birth to three where they will come evaluate a child for free and then have a ...

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How do you say "not now"?
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I found two ways of dealing with this. First, when we get home I give my kids about 15 minutes of my time before attempting what I think 'needs' to get done. This way I have given them my attention ...

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How to handle my 9-year-old's uncontrollable raging fits?
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9 votes

Sorry, no magic spell. Sending him to his room until he can be spoken too is great. Once you can speak to him give him the words for his emotions. 'I know you are frustrated because..." "I know ...

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Stopping a toddler playing with his belly button
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9 votes

Band-aid (a big one) — maybe? Every time he does it, ask him to remove his hand (I am sure you have tried this, but be very very consistent). If he is in school tell them what you are doing, so they ...

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Should I discourage my son from "stealing" toys from Let's Rock Elmo?
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He can't share nicely with Elmo as Elmo won't take turns or offer an instrument when he is done with it. Instead, explain to your son every time he does it that Elmo is a toy and might break if you ...

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What to do when daycare doesn't allow ill children during winter?
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9 votes

Most nurseries don't kick kids out for a cold or cough as long as the child does not have a fever, however if your nursery is you can take your daughter to the doctor and get a note saying she is okay ...

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How do I explain the difference in responsibilities and privileges between the oldest and youngest child?
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I would add to Kevin's answer about the younger child complaining about the older child's privileges. We have 'rules' in our house, for example when you are 8 you get an email, after 4 you may not ...

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What age do you stop reading bedtime stories?
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NEVER stop. Maybe add to the ritual having them read to you when they are able (Bob books are great for first graders).

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Attention-promoting activities for a toddler
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I have the same concern with my children with ADD for similar reasons. I found that playing games like Candy Land, Chutes and Ladders, Zingo and as they get a bit older games like Guess Who, Sorry, ...

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Should we use special detergent/washing powder for the laundry of baby clothes?
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We did buy special soap for our first child (it is very expensive) but by the time the third and fourth came around we didn't have time to wash their clothes separately and we found it completely ...

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At what age can you leave the child in the bathtub?
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Easy answer, while practicing to be in the bathroom alone, step out for a few minutes to take care of something and have the child sing the ABCs at the top of his/her lungs. Lots of fun for the kids, ...

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How do you address a 5 year old that has problems accepting corrections?
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Yes, there is a relationship between being very advanced and perfectionism, especially in the first child. she is used to getting everything correct so when she doesn't it is frusterating. What I ...

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How can I tame my 5 year old's wild hair?
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7 votes

It sounds like this is more your problem than hers. She is probably to young to care and doesn't compare her self to others the way we, as mothers, do. In terms of recommendations, you need to be ...

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How can I encourage my 4.5 year old daughter to eat without needing tons of time along with play?
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be sure to eat as a family no toys at the table have conversations, not necessarily all with your child, demonstrate how to have conversations by speaking to others at the table as well your child won'...

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Why should children be rewarded for good behaviour?
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We have done this with all three kids. They needed 26 stickers for a prize (yes even my 3 year old could wait that long). After 26 stickers the behavior was a habit. I told them we don't have to ...

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