Jared Smith
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Wife agrees with parenting, but is intentionally less strict
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You and your wife have a fundamental disagreement here. Not necessarily about parenting. If you have expressed that this makes you unhappy and your wife is on board with the necessity of disciplining ...

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Is the 'naughty chair' an effective strategy to punish children?
16 votes

You misunderstand the purpose of discipline. Don't worry about the artificiality. Children often take actions which have intermittent but unacceptable consequences. An example would be running into ...

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How can I help a child stay motivated in learning to program?
12 votes

A couple of things to add to user3143's excellent answer: Tools. Tools are not a substitute for experience or knowledge, but every craftsman/woman appreciates good tools, and they are something that ...

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Why don't children know why they do things?
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I'm going to offer this as a possibility, one that has some support in current science but that I find philosophically unpalatable enough that I'm not sold on it's truth: Free will is an illusion, ...

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How to make a 6-year-old stop being too competitive for his own good?
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This could very well be related to the work of Carol Dweck. While her work is fascinating and nuanced, the TL;DR is that children praised for intelligence restrict themselves to endeavors the think ...

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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?
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First off, know that you are not alone. We'll come back to that. My wife became pregnant with twins (our first). Unfortunately they had twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome and we ended up losing one of ...

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How can a parent encourage their child to talk more about what they did at school?
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Only thing that has worked for my wife and I with our 5 year old daughter is mentioning specific things we know she did that day to jog her memory. Her teacher sends out regular emails (2-3 per week) ...

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How should a jobless father advise his son when he refuses to study because of his educated jobless dad?
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There are a lot of answers already. Most (all?) of them are good. But there's one important piece of this that none of them address: how do you feel about your situation? It sounds to me from the ...

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What to do about an 8-year-old who will suffer silently until a breaking point?
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Don't feel too bad, I know adults who behave like this: stew silently about their job until all they can do is rage-quit, stew silently about their marriage until they scream at their spouse, etc. The ...

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How do I convince my eleven-year-old to practice her dancing?
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I'm not going to tell you to deliver an ultimatum, but... You are in a sense enabling the behavior. You could move her to a different studio as the other answers suggested, but if you are that ...

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How to deal with my 12 year old son being allegedly caught cheating at school
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Your son cheated on a test? That's a problem. But its not the biggest thing you have to contend with. You now have to ask yourself can I trust my child? A big part of that will be figuring out if your ...

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Expat child refuses to learn local language
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Although I certainly would not do this suddenly, I recommend using some incentives. You don't get dessert if you don't ask for it in English. You can't play on the ipad* (or whatever item rules your ...

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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane
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This situation is, at least as you've described it without knowing more details, unfair to you (as you imply but don't directly state). However, many many things that will happen to you in your life ...

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Toddler misbehaves a lot less with dad, than with mom
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A less technical answer than anongoodnurse, but perhaps applicable. One pattern I have noticed both through my own childhood with my friends and their parents and my own experiences as an adult is ...

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