Torben Gundtofte-Bruun
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Is Television appropriate for meal times?
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My opinion and experience is that television provides much more disruption than benefit: My experience is that if the television is on, then everybody is "glued to the screen" or at least thoroughly ...

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What are some strategies for raising a bilingual child?
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I grew up bilingual, and so does my son of 18 months. My son and I both have a Danish father and an Austrian mother. Here is what I've learned, from my own life as child and as parent, and from others:...

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How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says "why?"?
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I'm probably going to experience this situation pretty soon, too. One very interesting idea I've picked up a long time ago is not to accept a short "why" but encourage a full-sentence question. ...

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As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
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As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children? Treat all religions the same way: explain that they exist, and that you don't believe in them, but you do believe that everybody should make ...

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Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?
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When legally adult children continue to live with their parents, they implicitly accept to live by the rules of the house because they are legally free to choose to move out and live by their own ...

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My wife wants a 4th baby, but I don't
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You're only 25 years old, your oldest hasn't even started school yet, your youngest is 9 months old, and you want another? Wow, your wife is in a hurry. My immediate impression is that your wife is ...

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How do I approach my 13-year-old daughter's confusion regarding her sexuality?
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Is the psychological therapy a direct result of only this event? To an outsider without more information, that sounds like more than necessary. For something this critical, don't get advice from ...

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Should I monitor my child's internet usage?
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Yes, I think that children's online activities should be monitored but I don't think it's feasible in practice except for very young children. Older kids will always find a way to circumvent your ...

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What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?
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Read a bedtime story. A bedtime story winds him down and can be useful for talking through some special good or bad events/behaviours of the day. Our toddler would just rip the pages out if we ...

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What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?
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Same time every day. Whatever ritual the parents choose, it should start at the same time every day. It might take longer to complete on some days, but a fixed starting time helps create a solid ...

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Do I really need to wake my newborn to feed him?
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As long as he is getting enough in each 24-hour cycle, and he remains on-course on his weight chart, and if he can sleep 4-5 hours between feedings, then go with that and don't wake him up. I would ...

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Is this considered child abuse
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No, this is not child abuse, this is parenting. This is you having to deal with the direct consequences of your own poor actions and bad decisions. If things really happened the way you describe, ...

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What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?
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Putting toys away. This is one neat thing we've built into our bedtime routine. Even at 12 months of age, our child already knew that the toys are meant to be put away at the end of the day. The toys ...

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Can a son share a bed with his girlfriend, at 27?
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I see two aspects in this, summed up in these words: on one side, the son is a guest and should respect the house rules and/or the wishes of the hosts, on the other side, the parents are making a ...

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8-year-old right away repeats action after she is told not to do them
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I've read that children often overhear the "not" part of a request -- Instead of saying "don't do X" they hear "do X". Instead of telling what not to do, tell them what you want them to do. Instead ...

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My daughter wants me to read other's minds
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Encourage her! Ask her, What do you think is the reason? I think it's a sign of excellent perception that she realizes that other people do things that she would not do, or that she would do ...

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How do you know when it is time to take a child to the Doctor?
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A good pediatrician should have an on-call service 24/7. First time parents especially may not always know when it's serious and when it's not. A good pediatrician (and nursing staff) also will say ...

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Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed?
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You didn't specify how you put him to bed, so here are a few suggestions. I think the infant will feel abandoned if you just put him down without a word, and then simply remove your hands, and then ...

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Is it okay for both parents to be asleep at the same time?
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Yes, it's okay for both parents to sleep at the same time, for several reasons. The human mind is finely tuned to the sound of crying babies, you'll be surprised at what you can hear subconsciously ...

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What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?
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Same order every day. This should really be a no-brainer. The steps that the bedtime ritual consists of should be done in the same order every day.

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How quickly do I need to change my newborn with a dirty diaper?
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Yes you can wait. Unless you can't be interrupted (like when you're driving), you should change the diaper "reasonably fast," meaning within ten minutes or so during the daytime. That's a very rough ...

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When do kids usually stop believing in Santa Claus?
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From my own and others' experience, I'd say around 6-9 years of age is the time when they figure it out. Most will probably have a sneaking suspicion for a year or two, which they spend probing and ...

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How do my wife and I stop our son from learning to swear from us?
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Kids can and will quote you verbatim on the worst possible statements at the worst possible time. To avoid that, moderate your language at all times when the child is within earshot. I can sometimes ...

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How do I teach my baby to not touch my computer?
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Taking care of an infant is a full-time job. Are you doing that and working at the same time? That's hard. Kids mimic whatever they see. They want to do whatever it is you're doing, especially if it ...

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How to better engage myself with my 15 month old
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First of all, my advice is that you should avoid television and computers for now. He's too young to really benefit from it, and these things can train him to become even more impatient and shorten ...

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What would be a effective way to explain pornography?
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My immediate thought is that a sex movie is like any other movie: It's fake and make-believe, created only to provide entertainment to the viewer. Take Notting Hill as an example. Just like in any ...

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How to remove Toddler's attraction for iPhone /iPad?
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Since you're asking in regard to a toddler, my answer is this: It's not a toy. Make no exceptions. I would very likely allow older kids to play with my iPhone, because they're more likely to take ...

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Should my 3 daughters share 2 rooms?
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If you have 3 rooms for the children, then give each their own room, but with one condition that when guests sleep over, they must give up one room for the guests. That room should be the 20-year-old'...

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My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her
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From what you describe, it sounds like you're making a huge and sensible effort to be a good parent. I think you would do well in a situation where you are not overruled. But it's clear from your ...

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What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
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In the following, I'll answer from my perspective as a son of a nonreligious father, and as a nonreligious father myself. Summary: Mixing a Christian and a strong nonbeliever will cause significant ...

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