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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

You say that you don't want him to play it -- that's your answer, you should not buy it for him. Parents set the rules. Explaining why you aren't buying it can help him accept this decision more ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?

When I was around your son's age, my mother was worried I was playing too many video games. Her strategy was to get me involved in other after-school activities, like theater, which I ended up loving....
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Is it bad being a "bad influence" for my younger cousin?

I lived in a family which was fairly restrictive. They were quite religious, we always ate healthy, never any junk food, all our activities were vetted and scrutinized. It was also emotionally ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?

He's a 10 year old boy. He's going to display addicting behavior. I and my friends at that age had a shoebox full of baseball cards, and all we talked about was the big league baseball team for our ...
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How to handle my little brother's addiction to videogames?

This is anecdotal but... Throughout highschool my life was: wake-up, go to school, come home, game, go to bed, repeat. As I developed other hobbies, I did those instead of gaming. As money to buy ...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

In addition to the pretty good answers already provided, I'd like to point out that GTA 5 is not in any way suitable for a 10 year old. There is one specific mission that gives a very good example why ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?

Jeez... Well, 10 years old may be old enough to explain the monster of capitalism and the design of everything around as a scam to nickel and dime you into a life of scraping by just to make someone ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?

Although my previous answer is highly rated, the recent edits to the question have changed it dramatically, so this new answer is targeted to the edited question. Given the smallness of your ...
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How to handle my little brother's addiction to videogames?

Are you looking at an addiction, or at a symptom, or just a hobby? --- EDIT --- In 2018, after this post was made, ICD-11 was published with "6C51 Gaming Disorder" as a diagnosis. And — yes —...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

I guess it boils down to whether you think your son can cope with the content, i.e. can distinguish between the fiction and reality and process the displayed emotions and actions, or not. In my ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?

Up front, I'm not a parent, so take my parenting advice with a good handful of salt. I'm a software developer, I've worked on games very much like Clash of Clans for a number of years and can safely ...
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My teenager son is addicted to video games

As an avid gamer and software developer, I have never heard of a game called "Sauerbraten." I looked it up and apparently it is a first person shooter named after a German pot roast. It isn't a widely ...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

Wrong expectations lead to disappointment. Let him know in advance that GTA is not what he's getting for his birthday and ask him what he wants instead. You and others who raise the kid (partner, ...
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Should I play Minecraft with my kids?

Yes, you absolutely should Your boys are trying to share something valuable and important with you. I doubt you'd be this worried about it if it wasn't digital - what would you do if they wanted to ...
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Separated parents. As a dad, how do I exercise tough love without being the bad guy?

I am going to comment and answer each paragraph. (Keeping it civil and not fighting in front of your son is absolutely the way to handle it. You aren't 'fooling' your son, but you are modelling how ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?

There's so much going on here, I don't know where to start. How is an 10 year old able to spend money online at all? This is one problem. There's no way he should be able to do this without you ...
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How should I teach my son to play video games?

I am a game developer, and probably guilty of over-exposing my two daughters to video games. I make an attempt to limit the amount of time they get with digital devices, but introduced them both to ...
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Is it ok to play a computer game with a 3yo

The primary reason "screen time" is considered bad for children is that, even when somewhat interactive as games are, it does not stimulate their brain as much as other things do. Kids need all sorts ...
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5yr old Addicted to Mobile Devices - Need Advice!

I completely agree with you about it being the challenge for this generation. In my classroom I used to have to teach low-functioning children how to do tasks and to increase their attention span. I ...
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Is it bad being a "bad influence" for my younger cousin?

From my perspective as a mother, the only thing I cringed at was the unlimited junk food part, largely because I have family that sees my (6 year old son) fairly frequently, and their "we're supposed ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?

I think the key here is to understand what you're trying to accomplish, in the short term and in the long term. In the short term, you're trying to avoid harm to your son. You'd like to ensure his ...
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How to convince my wife that some digital gaming is beneficial

I am a gamer. A rather heavy gamer. So is my husband. Our goal for our future children is to avoid any and all screen time for as long as possible. There are absolutely some negatives to small ...
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How can I get involved in the parenting of my girlfriend's sister's 5-year-old who spends too much time on screens etc.?

You are too involved. She is not your child, the mother is not your sister, you aren’t an experienced parent yourself - you have no authority or bearing here. It’s excruciating to watch someone parent ...
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Should I allow my 19 year old son to sleep during the day?

Your son is 19, and about to leave for University. It's time to stop "enforcing" things for the most part, and start letting him figure out things for himself. You're not going to have any ...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

I'm going to play the devil's advocate here as most of the answers are very similar. By age 10, barring a severe development disability, a child knows what is and isn't real (https://news.utexas.edu/...
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How to handle my little brother's addiction to videogames?

Don't worry about the Minecraft playing. "'Marc', since he discovered YouTube and gaming, is a huge fan of Minecraft and spends way too much time on it, at the point where it's getting obvious that ...
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How to reduce Online Game Addiction?

The first thing is to find out why the child plays. As a pretty heavy gamer myself who has gone through a number of phases and reasons for getting lost in games, I know there can be many reasons why ...
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Making reading books the only option on long car commutes a bad idea?

You are trying to give your son 2 boring options and hope that the boring option which requires more effort to be bored will win out. Honestly, I don't see that happening. If you want to instill a ...
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What to do with a disinterested 12-year-old boy?

Your grandson sounds to be intelligent albeit lacking focus or interest. Since he likes video games, you could try exposing him to programming where he could build his own games and share them with ...
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