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Should I punish my teenage sister, whom I have full custody of, for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend?

Your sister got herself into a situation that she felt she needed to lie about. She could have continued doing that in the hope that she never got caught out, or until some crisis point where she was ...
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My 3 year old daughter thinks she is white. Should I tell her she's not?

"Correct her" is an odd phrase. To a child, if her skin colour is pale then she'll describe herself as white (quite correctly when seen through that lens) Instead of correcting her, why not spend ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

I'm late to the discussion here, but... I believe firmly in making the punishment fit the crime. If she wasn't on the phone while speeding, I don't understand what her phone has to do with it. ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

I drive fast...too fast...and am working on breaking that habit now. Both parents drove fast and aggressive and therefore I picked up those traits, still I am the one driving and choosing to drive in ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

I'm going to go a different route than many of the other answers, in that you could do what my parents did for me. It not only forced me to take responsibility for my actions, but also to cover the ...
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Should I punish my teenage sister, whom I have full custody of, for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend?

I train dogs as a hobby. This situation reminds me of a cardinal rule of dog training - if your dog is off leash and does something you don’t like, never call him back to you and punish him. Why? He ...
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My 3 year old daughter thinks she is white. Should I tell her she's not?

While I believe @RoryAlsop's answer is the best approach, I do appreciate that things might be a little more complicated for you in the American South, where there is a strong history of ...
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Foreign student required to learn and recite the pledge of allegiance in Kindergarten (U.S)

Assuming a public school setting, legally, your daughter's teacher is clearly in the wrong here. The famous 1943 Supreme Court case West Virginia State Board of Education v. Barnette ruled that ...
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Should I punish my teenage sister, whom I have full custody of, for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend?

Raising a child, a parent or guardian has two main jobs, beyond providing food and shelter. Protecting her from dangers she's not capable of safely managing herself Guiding her development as a ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

Disclaimer: I satisfy my speed cravings by breaking speed limits on a bicycle. I've done worse than your daughter. If you do it just right, a speed bump on a steep downhill results in a really ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

Your kid is 16 years old... That implies that for the past 16 years she has heard you get mad, take things away, and all that other fun stuff. She didn't speed because she was afraid of your ...
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Should I punish my teenage sister, whom I have full custody of, for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend?

Ask your sister. If your sister doesn't believe that her actions were worthy of punishment, then punishing her will only serve to illustrate the power you have over her and widen the gap between you. ...
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My 3 year old daughter thinks she is white. Should I tell her she's not?

I'm white and my wife is black, and our daughter is 3. She has in the past always been very pale, and she goes to a preschool consisting mostly of Indian children who initially had darker skin than ...
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In the USA in the year 2014, does the law forbid children from being out and about without close adult supervision?

Unfortunately the specific answer to your question is "yes the law might forbid children from being out and about without supervision, but it depends on the state". I believe the section of law most ...
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My 3 year old daughter thinks she is white. Should I tell her she's not?

I think the "correction" that needs to happen is to tell her that the color names that she is used to aren't used exactly that way with skin/people. Skin "color" is used to refer to someone's ...
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Should I punish my teenage sister, whom I have full custody of, for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend?

Should I punish my kid for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend? I suggest "no". Instead, consider feeling remorseful that she wanted to (or 'felt the need to') lie, and reconsider your ...
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How can I help my kindergartener dress up for costume week on a budget?

The main thing is to be creative and 'declare it to be perfect'. For example i dressed up my son around that age as a dinosaur. I took some old green sweatpants, filled 1 leg with paper, the other ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

Do you want it to be painful, or do you want it to be memorable and learned from? Which matters more? Are you aware that if these motivations work together for you, they may not, and do not, always ...
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Is it feasible to outsource all the unpleasant parts of baby care to a nanny?

I don't have studies either but I feel it's worth writing a bit even if it's somewhat opinion based. TL;DR: You most probably can outsource all the unpleasant stuff, but then you won't really be the ...
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Foreign student required to learn and recite the pledge of allegiance in Kindergarten (U.S)

I think we have to disentangle two important concepts here: A matter about faith A matter about cultural identity and citizenship Viewed through the lens of concept 1, citing the pledge of ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

Make her financially responsible for the vehicle. First of all she is the one who ought to be paying the fine. On top of that, your/her insurance rates will go up as a direct result. She needs to be ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

EU based answer (where the minimum age for a full driver’s license is 18 in most states): Driving is an adult matter with the according responsibilities, and authorities have quite a few education ...
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My 3 year old daughter thinks she is white. Should I tell her she's not?

You might have taught your child that we don't call a person's hair "yellow", we use a different word; "blonde". In the context of hair, "yellow" is not the right word. When we use the word "white" ...
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My 3 year old daughter thinks she is white. Should I tell her she's not?

The reasoning ability of a three year old, even a clever one, is severely reduced compared to that of an older child or adult. You first have to understand that she's seeing the issue through a ...
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My 3 year old daughter thinks she is white. Should I tell her she's not?

Don't correct someone who may be right! :) East Asians, to many, are white and it's possible that one day this opinion will be the majority view. This is my present view. Whiteness is like statehood:...
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Building credit history for a child

Yes, that’s a scam. Building credit should not cost any money, and anyone who asks for money to build your credit is scamming you. Minors do not generally have a credit report, as they cannot enter ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

Depending on jurisdiction, a driving course may remove the offense off her license, avoiding the fine and the increase in insurance costs. When taking the course for this, the cost of the course will ...
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Foreign student required to learn and recite the pledge of allegiance in Kindergarten (U.S)

Your daughter should certainly learn to be respectful while others recite the pledge. For older children it is clear that the standing quietly and calmly does show the appropriate respect. Getting ...
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My 3 year old daughter thinks she is white. Should I tell her she's not?

3 is a bit young to be teaching her racial discrimination - she is obviously comparing actual skin colour rather than ethnicity. You could use the opportunity to show her how everyone is different, ...
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