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I usually associate crying, shouting, upset and moody with a hungry or tired child. Feeding my children usually improves the situation. Snacks, fruit, yogurt or a meal if it's time The going to sleep part is usually more difficult.


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At some point kids have to eat what the family eats. That doesn't mean you can't have them try various foods. Culture is also in the meals you cook and that's what you transmit to your child. I don't think you should promote specific foods though, but definitely you should try things that you make yourself which are offbeat. That said, don't make 1 meal for ...


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In my experience, children quickly grasps that rules at different places (at home - grandparents - childcare) or around different adults (parents - aunts) are different. I would be honest with any aunts/grandparents/friends you visit: "Our house is pretty child safe, our kid will try all kinds of things and all kids can be messy", take a look ...


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He's not likely to comprehend the difference between spaces, especially when the same things are in both locations. ie. He can touch power outlets at your house because they are baby-proofed but it's not ok at his aunts house because they aren't. Even though things are your house may be babyproofed, when he goes for them, you should still stop him. "No&...


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I can say yes and no. If it too cognitive, I think it can cause drawbacks on other side of the development. "movement" is an important element at development of the children are at the early stages. Does the child move, try new things, experience the world, making sensory connections? How about resilience and emotional side? Sometimes people can ...


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can over-enthusiasm adversely affect a kid's learning process? As long as the kid has fun with it, it's totally fine and a VERY good thing to do. Kids that age WANT to stretch their brains, are capable of learning much more complex things than most people assume and under-challenging is probably a more frequent problem. Example: around that age it's easier ...


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I recommend the book Nurture Shock. It has some very interesting things in it about child development that would seem to be of interest to you. About whether what your child can do is normal, my answer is that it doesn't matter. The focus should be on developing your child in all areas at whatever skill level he exhibits, regardless of whether any of that is ...


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I'm not a child psychologist, but I have 9 children. Every one of them is as different from the rest as you can imagine. One of them learned to read by 3. Another didn't start reading until 8. The rest were in between. The one that learned to read by 3 progressed very slowly. The one that didn't start reading until 8 was reading JRR Tolkien within a year. ...


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I don't give my toddler the opportunity to run around naked after bath time. If he does it's really cute, but usually I wrap him comfortingly in his towel, carry him to the changing table and give him a toy or toothbrush to play with while I dress him.


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Beware the non-blind test. Your child may well be above-average intelligence. However it's also important not to forget that you aren't running blind tests here. For starters, you have a definite interest in the outcome. You may be seeing things because you want to. This is massively significant in everything to do with childcare. More seriously though, ...


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You child is probably gifted, but you need a specialized test to tell that (impossible to assess over the internet by strangers). It seems like he is hitting developmental milestones a few years ahead of the average for his age (see CDC's developmental milestones). There are several tests available for testing gifted children starting from as early as 2 ...


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Speaking from experience1, your child is advanced, very likely gifted - but it happens. Remember that “normal” is just a statistical distribution and doesn’t imply any value or sense of wrong or right. (You may need that image in a few years down the road when your child wonders why he’s “not normal”.) I am very sure that while your support and encouragement ...


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You could add a "compromise" combining the need to clean the teeth and the expected pain of brushing: find a fluid that cleans the teeth without brushing. There are some mouth cleaning fluids for children (for sure without alcohol) to buy, or you can search for a reciept to mix it yourself. This would exercise the routine of cleaning the teeth, but ...


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Many years ago, on vacation and staying in a cabin, our then-4-year-old son woke us up two nights in a row with similar terrors. He was only able to tell us that he saw a bad person who wanted to hurt him. Each time, we made sure the cabin was physically secure, comforted him as best we could, and put him back to bed. Now, in this cabin we had a small ...


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Not really an complete answer, but wanted to add it as some experience: When I was small, sometimes I saw a big spider move in the corner of my eye, in my bed. Scared the living *** out of me. My dad would come, catch the spider with his hands and took it outside my room, with the promise to release it outside. The fact that he caught it and removed the ...


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Ok I am not a parent, but I have encountered this problem many times myself. She may be experiencing nightmares, given that dreams come from images in her past life being pieced together to form what we call, Dreams. She could have went to a toy store and saw that doll, and then experienced a frightful feeling before or after that. I know i have. Just ask ...


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There may be a simple reason for the fear, something misinterpreted in the world outside. Mine was a terror of giants . It turned out to be the farm workers who walked on stilts tending to the hop plants in the field next door (1960's Kent UK). Their heads appeared over an 8 foot high wall.


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My niece had this when she was a baby. It was a monster in the room. So, I came back from Loch Ness with a little cloth monster, and my sister had the brilliant idea of keeping it under the bed. "Is there a monster under the bed? Oh, yes, here it is, say goodnight to Monster." If this persists, get her to describe how the black doll looks, and you ...


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Have you considered performing an exorcism? While I think it's probably mundane in nature (it seems like a textbook case of sleep paralysis to me), if you think it might be supernatural at nature (ghosts, or demons pretending to be ghosts), you might want to perform an exorcism. If nothing else, it'll help put your mind at ease, and hopefully stop your own ...


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Hallucinations can have a medical cause Your description of a "black doll with no face" sounds a lot like things I see when I have an episode of sleep paralysis. People tend to hallucinate the random patterns of noise from the small amounts of light they're seeing into figures standing over them- with different interpretations depending on cultural ...


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On a whim of the moment I helped my 3-yearold out of fear of ghosts by quickly ad lib-”befriending” the percieved ghost from my childs imagination. Like: Oh, but that is just my friend... (surprised deer in headlights stare from kid, gears in head moving) From that position of friendly imaginatory relationship, which invited questions and curiosity more than ...


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This answer might just save your life... Get a carbon monoxide detector, make sure yours works. "ghosts" and spirits have never been real, but they were much more common before the age of electrification, when houses were lit by burning gas indoors.... Even modern houses burn gas indoors, but today we mostly vent it outside. But if your venting or ...


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My son had night terrors occasionally, and would wake in great fear, screaming. Simple comfort until he was calm worked, plus open discussions about what nightmares and dreams are. It might also help to introduce your child to a book of optical illusions to talk about how things are not always what they appear to be. When a young child is in terror from a ...


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My 3 year old daughter was scared of having shower. In fact she never had one until last month when I started using Bunnings cheap hand shower. It is working well in terms of her washing herself up to the shoulders and I believe swimming glasses will help her put water on her face gradually. She fears that water will go in her eyes, mouth or nose. I may get ...


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I heard that when you insist that there is no scary things out there, she feels alone. Because she is sure of what she sees, and she needs your help, and when you keep saying that there is no scary things, monster or ghosts, she feels abandoned. I think when she is terrified, it is better not to mirror these feelings. When she talks about a scary things, and ...


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It is not crucial to brush with toothpaste every single day; skipping a day once in a while is fine. One way to deal with a cut on the lip is to use one (washed) hand to hold that lip, covering the cut with the soft part of the thumb/finger, while using the other hand to brush whatever is easy to brush, just with plain water. This keeps the teeth relatively ...


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It sounds like your daughter may be experiencing night terrors: Night terrors are common in children aged between 3 and 8 years old. A child who experiences night terrors may scream, shout and thrash around in extreme panic, and may even jump out of bed. Their eyes will be open, but they're not fully awake. [...] The best thing to do if your child is having ...


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When my son was a baby, and would get terrible diarrhea anytime he had to take an antibiotic, our pediatrician advised that we could apply Maalox (an OTC liquid antacid— other brands are Mylanta, Gelusil, Milk of Magnesia & of course store brands) directly to the skin as well as pouring 1-2 Tbsp. into the diaper every time we changed it. I just dabbed it ...


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