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How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?

Firstly, I have to admit that while reading your question I was wondering if you're being serious. For me (as a hopeful future father with the same questions in mind), your solutions sound shocking ...
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Should I encourage/persuade my 3 year old to watch kids TV shows that she finds scary or upsetting?

I find great importance in fostering a child's sense of personal control. Her nos are no and her yesses are yes - unless there is potential for physical or psychological harm. I'd suggest taking ...
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Impact on kids NOT having TV?

For a different perspective: When I was in grade school, I had a friend that didn't have any type of TV service at home (they did have dial-up internet, but certainly no Netflix). I was completely ...
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How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?

Wow! Well, it sounds as though you want to be the perfect family, and the perfect parents. And it's easy to understand why. Who wouldn't want the best of everything for their children? I have a couple ...
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How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?

We homeschool our kids, so perhaps I can provide a unique perspective. A lot of the other answers seem to be primarily worried about friends. People sparked friendships for millenia before ...
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Impact on kids NOT having TV?

I have 3 daughters who are 7, 5, and 3 years old. I didn't allow them to watch TV till a year ago when I was talked into babysitting a large plasma tv while the owner left the country for a few years. ...
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How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?

You lack one key: To be wonderful, to be amazing, to be successful, she must not be locked in this overwhelming strategy. Sadly, you are contributing to "this sexist world". It seems the motivation ...
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How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?

While I think your intentions are good, I think that some of what you are doing will actually have negative effects. Dolls are a perfectly healthy toy - both my son and my daughters played with them. ...
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Should I encourage/persuade my 3 year old to watch kids TV shows that she finds scary or upsetting?

There were movies that scared me as a child long after they should have because I watched them a little sooner than I was ready and carried a negative association around them. So even when I was old ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Kids, just like adults, want to "be cool", to have fun and to have something they can share with their friends. TV, video games, pro wrestling, whatever. And the parts they want to talk about/...
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Is it too dangerous for my 2-year-old son to watch YouTube on the iPad for hours?

Beofett's answer is excellent, but I would like to add a few personal observations which were too long for a comment. Youtube, specifically, can be very hard to control. Our toddler (3.5 years) does ...
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Should I encourage/persuade my 3 year old to watch kids TV shows that she finds scary or upsetting?

If a child is forced to deal with situations that are beyond his or her ability to understand, process, respond to, or control—specifically, situations that are accompanied by strong negative feelings,...
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Impact on kids NOT having TV?

No scientific, but anecdotal answer: We don't have a cable either and are in a very similar situation – IT pros with fast Internet. Our kids are 6 and 9. Both go to school / preschool and interact ...
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Should I encourage/persuade my 3 year old to watch kids TV shows that she finds scary or upsetting?

First of all, let me assure you that I understand your worry. I have been in your situation three years ago and it can be very alarming when your child finds "Ben and Holly" too scary ("The bird stole ...
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How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?

My daughter is about to turn 11, and I have similar hopes for her. Each of the paragraphs below is a category that her father and I have found to be influences on her in some way, and ways we try to ...
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Impact on kids NOT having TV?

Whether children get picked on has much less to do with the thing they are picked on for and much more to do with their social skills and general social standing. If your children asks to see ...
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Amount of screen time appropriate for a baby?

The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that no amount of screen time is appropriate for a child of that age. From their report on Children and media: For children younger than 18 months, avoid ...
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TV shows for toddlers that don't teach bad gender and race dynamics

On top of the great answer from bmgh1985 (and I'd particularly second their recommendations of 'Something Special' and 'Balamory') here are some more suggestions: In the Night Garden: Very safe, very ...
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Is it too dangerous for my 2-year-old son to watch YouTube on the iPad for hours?

On the other hand ... I was making my living as a freelance graphic designer when my children were small (way pre-iPad), and was constantly reading warnings against letting children spend too much ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Violence and play fighting is an innate aspect of human behaviour. You can observe animals play fighting as well. Domestically, you can observe cats and dogs play fight, more commonly as juveniles....
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What are the merits of TV vs DVD?

Good observations. I see things in sort of the opposite way, so let's compare. I feel that commercials are the evil twin of TV entertainment, especially when they're aimed at kids, especially when ...
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Is there any scientific evidence for TV being intrinsically harmful to children, or is it the loss of what TV replaces that is harmful?

Great question. There are several different reasons one might want to limit TV time for kids, and understanding those reasons can help support informed decisions about when --- and how --- to let kids ...
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Is it usual for a child to cry while watching cartoons?

It is certainly not unusual. Have you never watched a movie or show and shed a tear? Did Bambi's mother dying (sorry for the spoiler!) not bring a tear to your eye? Developing empathy is an ...
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Is it too dangerous for my 2-year-old son to watch YouTube on the iPad for hours?

Most of the answers here appear to be about screen time, but it's also important to remember that YouTube is not designed to be a safe space for a child. For example, my son likes to watch Minecraft ...
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TV shows for toddlers that don't teach bad gender and race dynamics

In addition to the answers already given, I'd also add My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic. Almost all the main characters are female, yet the plot lines are not all stereotypical girly-girly things. (...
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How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?

I think you're overthinking this a bit. It's great for brainstorming, but don't let little things like whether or not she gets to play with dolls distract you from your primary laudable goal of ...
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?

--- Disclaimer: Some might feel this answer to be hard to digest. --- Have you ever thought about what is happening in your kid's brains while they are watching TV? I mean, from a neuroscientistic ...
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Impact on kids NOT having TV?

The biggest problem would be, as you state, the children not understanding the language and cultural references of their peers. I've even noticed this myself. I don't watch (or have) a TV, I don't ...
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What are the merits of TV vs DVD?

This is of course very subjective, but one of the reasons I dislike TV is because of the advertisements. My kid starts asking for everything from snacks that she tries once and never touches again to ...
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