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How can I deal with with other people's children taking items from my one-year-old?

This situation is going to recur for years. Develop a long-term strategy for dealing with it based on what is best for your son, not necessarily what is fair. At this age, he's not going to learn any ...
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Daughter wants to eat cake meant for mommy - should I let her decide herself?

You would probably enjoy watching or reading about the marshmallow test. It was an experiment done on children around your daughter's age (some were a bit older) to see how well they can resist a ...
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What to do when child asks from older kids and they refuse

I don't think you could/should have done anything different. You were correct when you said that you can't force people to share their things. If the child who refused to share was your child, you ...
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4 year old steals toys from baby brother

This is pretty normal for siblings, and there are a lot of factors in play. The toy somebody plays with always seems more interesting. There is a book Siblings without Rivalry which discusses it in ...
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4 year old steals toys from baby brother

In my opinion this is very common behavior. He probably wants to both be part of what B does, and maybe to retaliate. Our 3 year old does this quite common to his little brother, 13 months old. He ...
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Shall we keep asking our child to share her food?

As a parent whose child has a peanut allergy, please don't encourage your child to share food. In our primary school, children are taught explicitly not to share food due to the prevalence of food ...
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Daughter wants to eat cake meant for mommy - should I let her decide herself?

You let your daughter make a decision and she made the choice most children her age will make. Ideally, your wife could have pretended to be very sad or angry ("That's not fair!") right after that, ...
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What to do about my extremely possessive 3-year-old who doesn't mingle with other kids?

Make it clear that his things are his, and he gets final say on whether or not to share them. Making him feel that he has control of the situation, at least with respect to his own toys, will make ...
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How can I deal with with other people's children taking items from my one-year-old?

The other parent seems to have taken a cue from you.* You didn't say anything and let the her deal with it, which sends the message that it doesn't bother you on behalf of your son. And when that ...
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How do I teach my 7 year old son to share things?

Tit for tat won't work. If you're teaching anything, it would only be a lesson in how to be petty. Doing the opposite might work, but you shouldn't do it for the wrong reasons. People share things ...
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Shall we keep asking our child to share her food?

It would be okay to teach a child, however not a 2 years old, to share foods, in case you might be living in underdeveloped places with food issues, which does not seem to be the case for you. ...
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Balance between sharing and being taken advantage of

Point 1: Concerns are always valid, but are sometimes unfounded. Yours are both valid and founded. What I mean is, it is valid to be concerned for the social development of your child, and the ...
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What to do when child asks from older kids and they refuse

It's possible that the other child was lying because he didn't want to deal with the backlash if had said "You're too young, I'm afraid you will break my game". In the future, when you ask if your ...
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How do I teach my 7 year old son to share things?

As I believe I posted elsewhere on this site--I believe my kids learned generosity and to share easily precisely because they were not asked to share too early. A quick anecdote: My brother and sister-...
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4 year old steals toys from baby brother

We have a similar set of boys (3 and 15 months), and the way we dealt with it, in addition to largely following Ida's advice above, was to emphasize to the older boy that the younger boy needs toys, ...
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Seeking advice, guidance and tips for behavioral improvement

Welcome! I have nothing to say about breastfeeding after two. It's your decision and it doesn't matter what I think. I never had the opportunity so I leave that to people who have. Discipline. If a ...
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What to do about my extremely possessive 3-year-old who doesn't mingle with other kids?

* Editing to mention that the previous answer didn't show up for some reason when I came to read the question, but I think we end up saying the same thing essentially. * I have a pretty non ...
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Im scared at night!

I am in my 50s, and sometimes I struggle with the same thing! Some things I find helpful: Leaving a light on in the next room Running a fan Sitting up and reading until I am really sleepy Music or ...
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How can I deal with with other people's children taking items from my one-year-old?

One of the most important concerns for a young child is to not have the things they are using taken away from them. Allowing another kid to take your child's toy is not sending the message you need to ...
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Seeking advice, guidance and tips for behavioral improvement

I don't think breastfeeding is an issue here, so I'll jump to main points. I suggest trying playful matter to solve cleaning up the toys. You coild say that toys love to get to their own places after ...
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How do I deal with my friend's daughter taking away toys from my son

I usually associate crying, shouting, upset and moody with a hungry or tired child. Feeding my children usually improves the situation. Snacks, fruit, yogurt or a meal if it's time The going to sleep ...
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Balance between sharing and being taken advantage of

Walk over the other parent and be very nice and tell them what happened. Don't bring up the past times it happened, don't make her feel bad for messing up her job as a parent. Just stay focused on ...
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How do I teach my 7 year old son to share things?

Well I would say you can try reading "It's Okay Not to Share" by Heather Shumaker. It's an enlightening approach to this very topic. In my house, things in common areas are common use items with ...
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My three year old wants everything my five year old is playing with

I would suggest getting him more toys of his own - toys that his sister would also be interested in, so she will want to borrow them from time to time. Then make it clear that lending toys is ...
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How do you teach a toddler not to share?

Learning to share is very important, but so is learning to take turns. In this situation I would just gently hold my child back and remind him that he needs to wait for his turn, or ask the other ...
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When should we transition second child into first child's room?

Have you considered co sleeping? This way you dont have to worry about A hurting your younger baby B. Once your younger kid attains 3 years of age, you can shift him.in the same bedroom of A. So this ...
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Should I discourage my son from "stealing" toys from Let's Rock Elmo?

Yes, it's just a toy, however I also think the way the play with toys can sometimes be an indicator of how they'll play with other children or animals. We ask our children to play carefully and ...
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