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Condoms in a care package: Parents advice

Speaking as a parent, I'm grateful to see this being done by a religious institution. So kudos. To be effective - including against pregnancy and STIs - condoms need to be used and stored in a ...
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Condoms in a care package: Parents advice

I am a parent who for many reasons including religious ones, does not want my children to have premarital sex. I sent my son to university with a package of condoms and he said he was instructed in ...
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Condoms in a care package: Parents advice

If the goal is to prevent embarrassment, change the target of the embarrassment to yourself. Put the condoms in an envelope marked "extra strong balloons". Then, it changes from "OMG my church sent ...
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Is it inappropriate for young teens to cuddle and sleep together if there is no sign of it being sexual?

I wouldn't worry too much, and I definitely wouldn't suggest doing anything about it. First of all you don't know that the two of them meant to sleep in an intimate manner. They may have fallen ...
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How to discuss private parts with an almost 3-year-old and introduce gender?

I tend to stick to facts as much as possible, and trust that for the parts children may be too young to fully grok, giving them more information than they can process is less likely to cause problems ...
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What can a father do in raising girls who will practice abstinence?

Let me address your question from personal experience, coming from a religious background, with a father who was not a good example in many ways, and with a husband who is everything my father should ...
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What can a father do in raising girls who will practice abstinence?

This is a simple answer to a broad question: treat your wife with the utmost respect, and behave in a manner consistent with what you're trying to teach them, i.e. keep the tenets of your faith. Also, ...
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How to deal with children when parents are caught in the act?

From personal experience coming to terms with how soon kids these days are being exposed to information about "sacred" acts, my overall recommendation is to be open and honest with a view to educate ...
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Condoms in a care package: Parents advice

Maybe you're over thinking this? I forget who said, in the US sex is an obsession, elsewhere a fact. Nobody dies from 2 minutes of embarrassment or nervous giggles. That said, I like the idea of ...
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Is it inappropriate for young teens to cuddle and sleep together if there is no sign of it being sexual?

You're saying nothing but good things about the girl. And you're saying that they're starting to discover romantic interest, or at least she is (girls mature earlier than boys). Now, is there any ...
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What can a father do in raising girls who will practice abstinence?

You really can't talk about abstinence to a 7 yr old. You will have to wait till they are at least 11 to have that talk. What you and your wife can do now is to get involved in their lives and give ...
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Condoms in a care package: Parents advice

Instructions will certainly be appreciated. The chance of teaching them how to use condoms so they actually work is far more valuable than the condom itself. They may have heard the basics, but some ...
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How to deal with children when parents are caught in the act?

For most of history, and in much of the world today, privacy was/is a privilege of the wealthy. Having appropriate behaviors modeled in the family context is not necessarily unhealthy. If they don't ...
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How to give a 5-year-old "the talk"?

You are already giving it more importance than it has by calling it The Talk. It's such a big deal to you (and many more parents) just because you want it to be so. Treating sexuality as something Top ...
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Condoms in a care package: Parents advice

Some answers are focusing on things I don't think matter in this case. Things like temperature, age, packaging, etc. of the condoms in the package. You may want to think instead of why you are ...
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How to give a 5-year-old "the talk"?

Little ones often have their curiosity satisfied with small answers. For the vast majority of questions about any topic at all, I find it most rewarding for the child to do two things: Ask them what ...
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How to discuss private parts with an almost 3-year-old and introduce gender?

As already said it's a good place to start with the facts as accurately as possible. I have always found something along the line of "Most boys have a penis" to work best. It's completely ...
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13-year-old sister dating elder (16 y.o. or more) guys

Can you have a private phone or Skype conversation with her? If so then try to talk about your concerns about the bad things that might happen to her. Stay away from moralizing or directly criticising ...
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How to healthily educate about STDs/STIs?

"Awkward" should be the least of your worries! In fact, it could be good to teach them how not to be awkward when discussing anything to do with sexual health - this could save them from illness, pain,...
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How to give a 5-year-old "the talk"?

Children often are not looking for long, drawn out, "THE TALK" kind of answers to these questions. It's important to not lie (the stork put it there!) because that does nothing for their educational ...
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How to have the talk about budding erections

I think you’re on a good track with your thoughts so far. Your list covers multiple categories, but what you probably want to focus on right now is etiquette. The physical reactions (whether ...
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Should I use "pet names" when talking about (private) body parts with my child?

Teach your kids right all the parts of their body I loved that argument: Tell her the correct names for her body parts, and use them every time. Don't use nicknames to refer to her genitals. ...
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How to deal with children when parents are caught in the act?

Whatever you do, please don't lie to your kids and create strange excuses or euphemisms for what you actually did, like your "balm" example. A simplistic age appropriate but fully truthful ...
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Is it inappropriate for young teens to cuddle and sleep together if there is no sign of it being sexual?

Remember there are 12 year old fathers, girls mostly 13 at least. Talk this over with the other set of parents and give the young ones sexual education if at all possible in their parents view. And ...
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Is it inappropriate for young teens to cuddle and sleep together if there is no sign of it being sexual?

As a 13 year old girl, I want to give you my perspective :) Me and my boyfriend are both 13, and cuddling/hugging/kissing is pretty basic stuff for us, and as long as there is no sexual activity ...
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How to healthily educate about STDs/STIs?

Perhaps it's best to just offer to discuss sex and answer any potential questions when they are ready. Most kids initially react with 'ewww gross', reinforce that you won't get into their business, ...
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I found a video on my 8-year-old girls tablet where her same aged girl friend asks her to show her private areas. And she does. What should I do?

It feels to me like you handled this appropriately. Children of this age, and really of any age, will do things like this; it's something that's scary as a parent, but also a very important teachable ...
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13-year-old sister dating elder (16 y.o. or more) guys

Please arrange for some birth control for her, otherwise you'll be Aunt Turquoise. Sit her down and explain to her about teen relationships and how unequal they can be when one of the teens is older. ...
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